The Eyes of Porn Addiction
This is a picture of me in 1997. The night before, I had gone on a porn binge. Look at my eyes: I have a vacant stare, it’s as if nobody is home. There’s no life behind those eyes. This picture shows the effects Read More
Freedom from Porn & Sex Addiction
Pastors, Porn, and Recovery
by Mike Genung This year we’ve been getting contacted from more pastors and pastor’s wives than usual. Many of the pastor’s wives who contact us have similar stories and questions as wives who are not married to pastors… “My husband is addicted to porn, but Read More
When You’re Afraid You’ve Fallen Too Far
by Mike Genung …for He Himself has said, “I will never desert you, nor will I ever forsake you,” Hebrews 13:5 Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double–minded. Read More
The Way Out
By Mike Genung No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that Read More
New – Support Group for Women Who Struggle with Porn
Help for Women Who Struggle With Porn or Sex Addiction We are now offering an eight week course for women who struggle with porn or sex addiction. Our women’s group is patterned after our men’s eight week course, which God has used to change lives. Read More
How Do You Handle Pain?
by Mike Genung On July 5 of this year, my wife’s 80 year old father passed away from congestive heart failure. Just six weeks later, Michelle’s Mom also passed away, hitting our family with a second wave of grief. As I’ve walked through the grieving Read More
Discerning Between Condemnation and Conviction
by Mike Genung How do we discern whether we’re experiencing condemnation, whether from our flesh or the enemy, or conviction from the Holy Spirit? Discerning which one is critical because if we mistake condemnation for conviction we can freefall into shame and despair. If we Read More
Dealing with Triggers
by Mike Genung To stay free from lust on an ongoing basis involves knowing one’s weak spots, or temptation-triggers, and dealing with them appropriately. New coping mechanisms need to be learned if we are to continue living a life free from sexual… or other kinds Read More
Are You One of the 15% ?
by Mike Genung “Why do you call me Lord, Lord, and do not do what I say?” Luke 6:46 A while back I was sitting in a doctor’s office. I’ve always been an exercise and health junkie, and in passing asked him if he had Read More
Famous Last Words
by Mike Genung I hear it all the time. A guy starts going to a group. Gets a little abstinence from sexual sin behind him… maybe three months or so. Thinks he’s done with lust. He drops his guard, cruises on flesh mode, then bam! Read More
The 2nd Most Important Thing Husbands Must Do to Heal Their Marriage
by Mike Genung Man gets hooked on porn in his teens. After years of binging on it, he gets married, without telling his wife. He thinks marital sex will resolve his lust problem, but instead it makes it worse. Not long after their wedding day, Read More
My Take on Porn Filtering Software
by Mike Genung I’ve never heard of a guy who couldn’t get around a porn filter when he wanted to. Once the pull to seek out lust hits and they give in, the challenge to see if they can get around the porn filter has Read More
12 Things to Remember When You’re Battling the Temptations of Lust
Overcoming lust can be hard. Some battles are fiercely intense and last for hours, while others are easy. For those moments when you’re caught in a tough battle, here are 12 things to remember: 1. No temptation lasts forever. They may feel like they will, Read More
Standing in Freedom
December 18, 1865: The thirteenth amendment, which outlaws slavery, is officially integrated into the U.S. Constitution and becomes law. Slaves in the U.S. are now legally free to walk away from bondage and into the freedom they’ve wanted all of their life. You would have Read More
Who Are You?
“Hi, I’m Mike, a sex addict.” This was how we were expected to introduce ourselves at the 12 step groups I attended back in the 90’s. Many who are in bondage to sexual sin have issues with justification and denial; identifying ourselves as a sex Read More
Frozen Hearts
Recently, I took my daughters to watch the Disney movie “Frozen.” The plot involved two sisters whose parents were a King and a Queen of a small kingdom. The eldest sister, Elsa, is born with a special power that enables her to create ice, snow, Read More
Six Reasons Why Husbands Should Confess Porn to Their Wives
Here are six reasons why those of us who are married should tell our wives of our struggle with porn or sexual sin: 1. The marriage is corrupted, and until you come clean the adulteress of lust will always be between you and your wife, thwarting Read More
The Experience
Recently I took my wife and teenage daughter to a large department store in a mall. As they browsed through the makeup section, I settled in to take in the scene around me. The brightly lit counters and smart product displays demanded attention. Pictures of Read More
The Simplicity of Receiving Forgiveness
After Nathan confronted David head-on for his sins of adultery with Bathsheba and murdering her husband, David’s response was short and to the point, “I have sinned against the Lord” (2 Samuel 12:13). There was no justification, explanation, or denial; no talk of being sorry Read More
The Toxic Rush of Ministry
Serving and giving back to God is enjoyable. It’s great to be able to help others, use our gifts, and invest our lives in eternity. There’s another side we must be careful of. Ministry can be used as a drug; something we get a hit Read More