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erindawws
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Posted: Mon Jan 15th, 2007 10:10 am |
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Hello,
I'm in my later teens and am having serious stuggles with masturbation. until I was 15/16 I had no idea that female masturbation existed. I started masturbating because I wanted to know what these people I saw in the pornography were actually feeling physically.
I know that sex is a very personal and spiritual experience to be saved for after marriage, but I'm still having difficulty controlling myself. I'm clean for a couple months but then suddenly I will get the urge to view porn and masturbate, which I usually do, to my dissapointment! How do I stop?!?!?!? I don't have enough will power for this and feel unworthy to ask Christ for help. What can I do?!?!? I'm single and struggling. Does anyone have any advice?
Erin
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truthseeker
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Posted: Mon Jan 15th, 2007 02:36 pm |
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Hi Erin,
God's arms are always open. There is nothing that gives Him more joy than for one of His lambs to seek Him. It is Satan who accuses you of unworthiness. Nowhere in Scripture do I find a limit to God's forgiveness toward a repentant heart. Praise Bod, because we would all be sunk! Nor do I find in Scripture that one sin separates us more from God than another. Yes, some may bring more consequences in our lives, and/or be more difficult to master, but all believers sin, every day, for our whole lives. That is not to say that we should have a casual attitude about sin, "what's one sin more or less?", but that we are all in the same boat and God is gracious.
That said, finding someone with whom you could share your struggles would be ideal. Anything you can do to preclude access to the porn would also help. Try to create some kind of visible, tangible reminder of your desire to stay free that can be in your face when temptation strikes. I hope that others can give more advice, as mine does not reflect personal experience in this particular struggle.
Praying for you...
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erindawws
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Posted: Wed Jan 17th, 2007 03:09 am |
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Truthseeker, Thank you for your words of encouragement and also your prayers. I've been doing better lately knowing that I am not alone in this struggle. As to finding a confidant... i really don't know. No one but all of you here are aware of my struggle... and I hate to tell those closest to me... but I will have to, I just need a little time to gain strength and confidence. I have put a free blocker on my computer to help remind me (I can't afford to buy a blocker). Also, I took your advice about a tangible reminder, and it happens to be this web site. When I know that I can log on here and talk with people and share my feelings instead of turning to pornography, I find strength to resist. This is only a few days in, but so far seems to be helping.
Thanks Again,
Erin
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Billyeah
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Posted: Tue Jan 30th, 2007 04:44 pm |
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erindawws
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Posted: Tue Jan 30th, 2007 05:15 pm |
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Billyeah, thanks for your concern as well as your honesty. I'm doing alright for now. It's been tough, but I've got work that fills my days and my church leaders actually encouraged us to read the New Testament by September. I've flung myself into this endeavor and am finding that reading several chapters a night, I'm able to keep myself from doing anything I'll regret.
Again, thanks for your concern,
Erin
Last edited on Tue Jan 30th, 2007 05:16 pm by erindawws
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Neversaydieagain
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Posted: Wed Jan 31st, 2007 03:41 am |
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i actually have a friend with the same problem as you.. or at least pretty close. she's actually my closest accountibility partner. someone i can trust. i'm 19 and she 's 20. we can't always be there for eachother but we try our best to be. this i know is something hard to work with. being a male and a female with the same problem but we have found a way to do it. Respect is something i'd call key in this. but honestly it's easier with someone of the same sex to be accountable to. look for that person you trust and confide in them. you'll find it a lot easier to cope that way. 
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I guide you in the way of wisdom and lead you along straight paths When you walk, your steps will not be hampered; when you run, you will not stumble.
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Marcogol
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Posted: Fri Feb 2nd, 2007 08:00 am |
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Hey there,
same with Billyeah, i wont spend alot of time here,
but i'll just share that we shouldnt be afraid of coming back to Christ, this is repentance at work, and our only way back to Christ. I have the same problem, the same guilt that i want to get rid of... but I'll tell you this, no matter what we do He won't let us go (Prodigal Son/Daughter, and somewhere in romans 8 "i am convinced that neither life nor death...")
Christ loves you... We are dark, yet lovely (In Songs of solomon, somewhere there).
Never doubt Christ's mercy, our sins are forgiven (past, present, future).. lets just work on it, and try to look at us through His eyes... He loves us for a reason... He wouldn't let us go for a reason... He see's us from beginning to end... We have a room in His heart... no go for it 
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4 One thing I ask of the LORD,
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that I may dwell in the house of the LORD
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to gaze upon the beauty of th
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Posted: Tue Feb 6th, 2007 07:56 am |
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Thank everyone for your encouragement. I am doing well currently. Work is constantly filling my time, as well as scripture study and some of my constant projects. One question - what do our dreams tell us about our addiction?? I won't go into details, but I had a dream that I was repeating the cycle... being good, then becoming trapped again. Does this mean anything? any insight would be of help. Other than that I'm doing well.
Again, thanks for all of your encouragement. It has helped me more than you know.
Erin
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