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rom517mm
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Posted: Wed Feb 13th, 2008 10:00 pm |
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| My wife called me to say that she felt "called out" by our pastor to tell that we're working through some issues, and that it has been a tough year. She said she didn't reveal anything specific about my lust addiction, but said that our pastor certainly might be prone to pry more into what the "issues" are. I was a bit stunned, and upset that this might have to come out beyond just my wife and I. I was hoping that things would sail smoothly along once I showed her I was truly repenting (I have been truly seeking purity for about a month now), but I know she is very wise and has walked with God much more closely than I have, so I have to realize it's my wanting to take the easier road and just keep it between us two. Please pray about how things progress from here, and that I'll be willing to share what needs to be shared.
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Posted: Thu Feb 14th, 2008 03:27 am |
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Hi rom517mm,
Yes, I will pray.
If you are in a teaching or other leadership position, your pastor may ask you to step aside from it while you are focusing on these issues. As tough as that may be, it is important to submit in humility to the pastor's leadership.
A positive, is that he may be able to direct you to some local resources for support.
What's done is done, but even as the wife I think I would have alerted you to an intended discussion with the pastor. Keep trusting God to work in every aspect of your situation.
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rom517mm
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Posted: Thu Feb 14th, 2008 01:40 pm |
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Truthseeker,
My wife and I did discuss the possibility of being asked to step down from leadership. I told her that part of the reason I didn't want to tell others about our issue was that it could affect her, since she's my wife. But I guess the more important issue is that I move forward in recovery, not that my reputation to outsiders remains unstained.
As for whether my wife should have told the pastor, she said she wasn't sure she should have after the fact. But at the time she felt that she would be lying (or at least not totally forthcoming) based on how he asked her how it's going. I feel bad about putting her in a situation where she has to make that tough choice. Anyway, what's done is done, and it leads me to even more strongly desire purity since I want to show my wife and (now) our pastor that I'm putting the old self behind.
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Posted: Sun Apr 13th, 2008 09:55 am |
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I was hoping that things would sail smoothly along once I showed her I was truly repenting (I have been truly seeking purity for about a month now)
I do not endorse telling EVERYONE about your private struggles however, if you are in leadership, this could affect your ability to lead. Leadership is held to a higher standard.
Your wife was put in an awkward, to say the least, situation where she did not divulge exactly what you are going through.
I truly hope things work out for you and that your life is not rocked too hard - but if it is - God is your sufficiency.
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