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Posted: Tue Aug 23rd, 2005 08:54 pm |
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Hello everyone, my name is Jonathan. I've chosen the name of Daily Choices because that is what my life is about, well perhaps I should have chosen Hourly/Minute Choices, but that just didn't sound as good 
Anyway I have been struggling with my sex addiction for at least 15 years now (wow, that sound like a long time). But for all the work I've put into it, I haven't gotten very far. I've just recently found some resources that seem to help me better understand where I'm at and what I'm missing. The biggest thing I'm missing is a true and deep relationship with God.
To add my story to the masses, I grew up without much of a father. Actually my biological father left when I was two, my mother had some boyfriends here and there, durring this time my 'father' figures were my grandfathers, neither one of them Christians. Then my mom re-married when I was about 10. We started going to church, though it was kind of a dead church, and my step-father was more of a Sunday Christian who didn't know how to father a 10 yo boy.
Isolation and abandonment were major aspects of my growing up and I would like to break out of that. One of the reasons I am joining here.
My wife and I are trying to recover from my adultery and porn addiction. I've been able to eliminate and stay away from sources that would lead towards another encounter with a woman, but still struggle with the porn... Continuing to re-open wounds in my marriage. Though from reading some of the material on this site I have recognized something that I hadn't taken into consideration before. To flee from sexual imorrality by focusing on God, just enough in my mind, just focus on God and His glory when I am tempted. Don't fight the temptation head on, don't fight the urges, the flesh, but just turn my mind towards God... So far it has worked very well, but can still be hard when I am very tired.
Anyway, here I am.
Jonathan
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Steve
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Posted: Tue Aug 23rd, 2005 09:18 pm |
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Welcome Jonathan!
-Steve
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"Isolation is bad for any man, but for the sexual addict it is fatal." -Russell Willingham
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mike
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Posted: Wed Aug 24th, 2005 05:35 pm |
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Hi Jonathan, and welcome.
>So far it has worked very well, but can still be hard when I am very tired.
Yes, and those temptations do come when we're tired. (Satan doesn't play fair.) The more you turn to God the more it becomes a natural habit, and you'll find your spiritual muscles building up over time as you continue to do this.
Thanks for sharing your story here. You're on the right path in working to stay out of isolation.
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Posted: Wed Aug 31st, 2005 03:46 pm |
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Hi Jonathan...
Care to give us an update? How can we encourage you?
I highly suggest finding a therapist / counselor / lay person who has been successful in his own sexual addiction recovery and has the skills to help you get free. It can totally be done!
-Steve
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"Isolation is bad for any man, but for the sexual addict it is fatal." -Russell Willingham
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