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Posted: Wed Dec 14th, 2005 03:50 pm |
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| Hi everyone. My husband has a porn problem and I just really do not know where to turn. I have prayed, begged God for help, pleaded with my husband and have done everything I know to do. I feel so alone right now. I want to run, to get out, but I know God does not want that, but I am not sure how much more I can take....
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Posted: Wed Dec 14th, 2005 08:41 pm |
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Hi Tears,
Welcome to the forum. After reading your intro, it stands clear that your husband has the porn problem. You can't control him (emphasis). The only thing you can control is your response - or reaction to his problem.
Pull up a chair and read through our stories. There are a lot of terrific people with lots of resources and an abundance of hope to be found within.
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Posted: Thu Dec 15th, 2005 09:55 am |
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| Thanks RTK. I have done a lot of reading here and I must say I feel a little better knowing I am not alone in what I am facing.
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Posted: Thu Dec 15th, 2005 02:26 pm |
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Hey there, I'm running late for an appt. but wanted to let you know you aren't alone. I'm fighting the same battle. Please hang in there, God will honor your sacrifices that you are making during this very painful struggle.
HUGS, gotta' run....
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Posted: Thu Dec 15th, 2005 06:40 pm |
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Thank you so much Joel2:25
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Posted: Fri Dec 16th, 2005 12:43 pm |
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Tears4us,
Don't know if I've expressed this, but I'm praying for you and crying some with you. There is hope in Jesus, but it hurts right now and I feel deeply for where you're at! Keep us informed with what you think about what the others have suggested on the various threads. Sometimes, when I was hurting and weeping worst, I'd just ask God for a verse.....something....to let me know that He was there.....saw my pain and cared for my wounded heart, even when my husband wouldn't. He'd always give me immeasurably more than all I could ask or imagine......usually on the floor of the bathroom, with a locked door, lots of kleenex, my Bible and my journal. I remember spending lots of time in the Psalms then, as well.....and sometimes reading a book I'd found at the Christian bookstore.....ask Him what He has for you. Playing worship music, as several have mentioned, was also very helpful in lifting me out of despair and helping my heart to feel the love of God in Christ. And again, know you'll be prayed for and cared for here.
With care and hugs, 
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Posted: Sat Dec 17th, 2005 12:57 pm |
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Hello Tears.
Are you processing all that is happening in your marriage with anyone in your "real life"? Are you seeing a therapist who understands the nature and dynamics of sexual addiction and what a spouse of a sex addict typically goes through? Do you have caring friends to talk to?
I trust where you see where I'm going with this. You've got to have that support!
-Steve
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"Isolation is bad for any man, but for the sexual addict it is fatal." -Russell Willingham
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Posted: Sat Dec 17th, 2005 05:26 pm |
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I've shared bits and pieces of our story and much the Lord has used as a bedrock for my heart in rising above our marriage issues, but what I haven't shared yet, is that God really did provide people to support me in this process. Most of all, the counselor who was well trained in sexual addictions and all that goes with them. Often, he was able to tell my husband where I might be at emotionally better than I could, since we both "saw him" over the phone together, at least some of the time. I thought this might be a good place to verify that, yes Tears, you will need this support and you do want to be sure the person has this sort of training behind them. I trust you will be blessed by it as well!
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