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proman1953
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Posted: Sun Jan 20th, 2008 09:37 am |
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I go out of town every week on business. For the last couple of years when I get to the hotel I do the internet search and have a girl come to the room. My wife has no idea. When I am at home I am saying hail mary's, etc, saying please help me stop and as soon as I get to the hotel I do this compulsive behavior. My faith is weak.
My question for now is just is there anyone out there who has been able to stop adultery who did not confess to his wife?
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Wilderness Voice
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Posted: Sun Jan 20th, 2008 04:44 pm |
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I am not Catholic, but my wife and I are quite familiar with the Church's teaching. Have you gone to confession with a good priest? You need to get your heart right with God first.
I know at some point you are going to have to ask your wife to forgive you. But you should be in a state of repentance so that you don't betray her and God again.
This is very dangerous behavior, to your soul and to your physical well-being.
My wife and I will say a prayer for you.
Wilderness Voice
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forthelord47
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Posted: Sun Jan 20th, 2008 09:48 pm |
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I can speak only for myself. I had to "come clean to my wife." I once tried to come clean to a therapist, thinking that would break my addiction to prostitution..but it did not work. To be clear, I actually did not have the guts to be the initiator of "coming clean" to my wife. She had found out that I had a myspace page and confronted me about it. I had lied as usual but a few weeks later she demanded to see the page. At that moment, I knew that I had no way to lie anymore. I showed her the page which, was proof of my adulterous behaviors and told her of all the sexually sinful acts I had committed throughout our entire marriage. This was in Oct, 2006 and by the grace of god, we are still married and I have stayed clean. Her hurt remains very, very severe and it's painful for me to see how much I've hurt her. However, I know that her pain is much worse and all her anger is justified. The bottom line is that if she had never demanded to see that myspace page, I guarantee you that I would of still been deep into sexual sin. I believe that the same holds true for most of us that have been addicted to prostitution or other forms of sexual sin. God wants marriage to glorify him. I thank our lord for each day that I have been clean and for my wife who led me to Jesus.
God bless,
Marc
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junkyardboy
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Posted: Wed Jan 23rd, 2008 02:21 am |
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as one who has been in your place, consider why you would think your wife and children don't in their hearts already know.
sexual immorality destroys the body and soul a little at a time, and carries with it the stench of death.
your family has been watching you die a little at a time and as such are also dieing.
your family begins to see a husband/father that exploits women for his own pleasure.
that vision will begin to destroy all relationships you and they have.
my heart aches for you as you have put into place unavoidable consequences.
go watch your family sleep tonight.
think deeply of the world you are leading them into.
i am reminded of probably the most sung hymn "Amazing Grace"
"twas grace that caused my heart to fear..."
pray for the sensitivity to sense spiritual death
pray for God's Amazing Grace.
peter
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have we been abandoned by God?
http://www.apprising.org/archives/2006/11/dr_john_macarth.html
http://www.valleybible.net/position_papers.php
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Posted: Wed Jan 23rd, 2008 07:15 am |
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| she deserves to know who she is married to amongst the lies. give her a choice if she wants to stick by the real 'you'. its possibly the most loving thing you will do for her. the truth will set you free.
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Posted: Sat Jan 26th, 2008 05:06 am |
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Proman1953,
If you've been in contact with prostitutes your wife's health could be at risk as well as yours. Your responsibility in the matter may be a factor in your decision about whether to let her know the truth.
More direct for obtaining prayer requests than Hail Marys, are Our Fathers that take us straight to the Source.
Is God to you someone you lean on moment by moment in the nitty gritty of daily life? He is there and will involve himself in your affairs if you invite him to do so. But he will do it in his time, in his way, and on his terms, not yours. Are you ready for that?
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