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Roxy40
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Posted: Thu Oct 6th, 2005 05:01 pm |
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I'm new here.I have posted a couple of times and I'm still trying to know where to put the posts.I have been married for 14 years.I have 2 daughters 6 and 2 and My husband has been looking at porn for the whole time we have been married.He has never kept it a secreat.He tells me all men do it.That part I beleave.I know the websites he goes to and I know the passwords.The only thing that bothers me is he thinks its not a problem and he is constantly lieing about it.He will tell me that he hasen't looked at any today and then I will go on the computers History and find out that he has.I have hurt for many years but I have forgave him through the grace of gods help.There have been times in my marriage that I wanted just to get out and leave.I took a vow to love him for better or for worse.I don't beleave in just walking away.I beleave that every marriage has lies and deception so why would I want to be with someone else with Baggage.I guess the things that hurts the most is being lied to and not measuring up in his eyes.I have no more self a steem.I do know now that God is guiding me down this path for some reason.....Well thank you all for Listening to my problems.........God Bless.............Roxanne
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mike
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Posted: Thu Oct 6th, 2005 06:38 pm |
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>I'm new here.I have posted a couple of times and I'm still trying to know where to put the posts.
Welcome !
In your case it would probably be best to post in the Wives topic, this is where you'd get the most support from other women going through what you are.
If your husband's still lying about it and not doing anything to get help, then I would say you need to confront him and force him to choose between you and porn. It doesn't mean he'll get well overnight, but that he will start being accountable with other men on a consistent (weekly, even daily basis) and start facing the root issues driving his problem.
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Steve
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Posted: Wed Oct 12th, 2005 01:02 am |
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Hi Roxy. I absolutely echo Mike's words.
You're in a tough situation, and it's an especially tough situation if he's still lying about his addiction and manipulating you. You're going to need a lot of love, healing and support yourself as you work to save your marriage. Please seek out that support for yourself!
-Steve
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"Isolation is bad for any man, but for the sexual addict it is fatal." -Russell Willingham
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