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Posted: Wed Nov 30th, 2005 03:22 pm |
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| Getting an internet filter was a big step for me. While it has been frustrating that it blocks some things that aren't an issue for me, it has also saved me many times. I thought this might be a good place to discuss filters that others have found useful. I use NetMop which works pretty well and is reasonably inexpensive. I'm curious to hear what others have found.
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Posted: Thu Dec 1st, 2005 07:47 pm |
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I use http://www.safeeyes.com , which works very well.
My only general input is that sometimes folks early in recovery put way too much emphasis on filters to save themselves from their addictive behavior. Indeed, a filter is a "must" for those working hard at staying free.
Yet I sometimes find some in recovery talking about filters ... to the exclusion of really exploring the deeper issues of why they turn to their addictive behavior. If only putting a filter on one's computer would free oneself of being a sex addict ... ha! 
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Posted: Sat Dec 3rd, 2005 12:35 am |
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http://www.truevine.net
That uses the S4F filtering, and I just recently settup the accountability part too. Supposively it will be updated daily too.
It too blocks some things that I dont feel should....but better safe from temptation than sorry.
And yes I also agree that to attack this problem on the end-result part of the issue only does but so much good. But it has helped me face the real problem as it boils up inside...I can start to see it for what it really is.
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matt
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Posted: Sat Dec 3rd, 2005 02:01 pm |
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| I in no way meant to insinuate that a filter was a permanent fix to addiction. One huge realization that I've learned is that there's no one things that works in recovery. Its more like a tool belt that we need to populate with the proper tools. Certain tools have certain uses where another tool wouldn't be appropriate. Filters are definitely on my tool belt, but are used in their proper place. I'm still in counseling as well to explore deeper issues, but without a filter in place for a boundary, I'd be more apt to fall in my weaker moments.
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matt
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Posted: Wed Dec 14th, 2005 05:07 pm |
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| Is safeeyes the filter offered through newlife.com? I think they have one as well.
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Posted: Sat Dec 17th, 2005 11:03 am |
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Sounds good, Matt. Keep up the good work! 
I have no idea if Safe Eyes is offered through New Life.
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Posted: Wed Mar 8th, 2006 04:49 pm |
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"NetDog Internet Filter" does very good job in filtering world.
its homepage: http://www.NetDogSoft.com
NetDog download : http://www.NetDogSoft.com/netdog.exe
it's very easy to use NetDog, NetDog block porn content efficiently. it can work with all kinds of browsers( IE, firefox ....)
key fetures:
Embed "Filtering Engine" into Windows Operation System !!
High Performance Content Filtering Algorithm ! Quick Filter ! !
Support user-defined Url block!! ( black & great url lists ), Support wildcards (* and ?) and keywords in url !
Password protected with NetDogAdmin !
Simple user interface!
http://www.NetDogSoft.com
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Posted: Fri May 26th, 2006 06:42 pm |
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http://www.contentwatch.com is a VERY good program for blocking porn. No software can stop everything, but this gets most of it. Trust me. I've tried many and (shamefully) found ways to beat them all. This can be beaten as well, but you'd have to be pretty PC savvy to beat it and it has kept me from very, very gross falling when I foolishly throw caution to the wind. It's the best of the bunch that I've found. My wife has the password, so I can't just surf at will. The cost is reasonable.
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Posted: Mon Oct 22nd, 2007 03:03 am |
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I use Bsafe: http://www.bsafehome.com/ContactUs.aspx.
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Posted: Wed Oct 24th, 2007 03:55 am |
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My name is Matthew, I just got Covenant Eyes Filter. It work pretty..There support is real good the hours of operation are.
Monday through Friday 8 AM to 11 PM
Saturday 10 AM to 4 PM
Sunday and major U.S. holidays: Closed
I just installed it yesterday.
The cost is reasonable.Last edited on Wed Oct 24th, 2007 04:26 am by blueeyesman
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Posted: Tue Jun 16th, 2009 01:16 pm |
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I have WebWatcherKids on H's computer. It records everything, e-mails, websites visited, keystrokes, searched topics, and you can take screenshots based on key words of your choice (camsex, porn, breasts...etc)
I initially went about it the wrong way and put it in place with out his knowledge so I could determine if he was serious about recovery. I needed to know if this relationship was worth saving or was I wasting my time and efforts... It allowed me to see the real him. He truly wanted to recover from SA/PA but kept backsliding at certain times. I was able to offer additional support during those times of struggle for him without him feeling the shame of knowing why I was keeping him on the phone or offering extra self-esteem boosters at the right times...
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Posted: Fri Jun 19th, 2009 01:55 pm |
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| Mechelle, I'm wondering how you got Webwatcher on your computer without your husband's knowledge. (My husband is pretty computer savvy). He actually suggested that program and we tried it. He claimed it was for my peace of mind rather than to stop him because he's been porn free for 9 months since he got caught he says but I also want to know if he's serious. If he knows the computer is being monitored surely he won't use this computer for porn but if he doesn't know and he's not serious then I would know not to trust him. Do you think it's best they don't know just to find out their sincerity?
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Posted: Sat Jun 20th, 2009 01:51 am |
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My H is pretty computer savvy also...actually alot more than me... I just don't let him know that..LOL!
**I am going to be prefectly honest here. I am going to be pretty blunt about this, in hopes that it will help others. I sure wish I had this type of info going into recovery with him, I would have understood him much better... and would have been a better help-meet.**
When I initially installed it he had no idea, he continued to surf just as he normally would, of course. I could definately see progress in him. Most of his work is by his computer and I could see that he worked diligently at what he was doing. (showed me good work ethics)
I could also see the "triggers" which usually was an ugly/upsetting e-mail that would have him viewing 'soft porn type photos' looking for something to give him a lift. (this was not very frequent and many times he would actually look at my pictures)
During the day I could also see him working very diligently on his Recovery Nations lessons. (http://www.recoverynations.com) I could tell he was sincere and working hard and truly wants sexual addiction out of his life.
But I could also see when his difficult times were. I knew when he had his most difficult hours and frequently went from site to site. (porn sites) Even though these were sites that had content I would never want to view, I could see the big picture that he the time spent was getting less and less and that he would go back and view his lesson on Values or Vision for His Life.
FAST FORWARD~ Once he knew I could see everything he does on his computer his entire behavior changed. I let him know what I was able to see and how I felt about it. I told him that even though I know what he was doing I still loved him and I could see the progress he was continuing to make. But once he knew I could see everything, he quit viewing anything 'extra' he even stopped viewing my e-mail (which he had access to) and only used his computer for his work. I never asked him to stop anything he was doing; everything he did was led by his own heart.
Initially knowing I could see everything he was doing he was very angry. I do believe most of the anger came from being angry with himself due to the shame men feel about what they have been doing. Once the initial anger subsided and he knew I did not do that to hurt him in any way he said he felt comfort in knowing he had to be accountable and could not just act-out whenever the urge would arise.
Denise, to answer your specific question and to how I got it there without him knowing was fairly easy. I can tell you how it was placed there, totally undetected on his computer, and the only program that could remove or interfere with it if you would like. I have never had to access his computer since the installation and do all monitoring from my computer. I don't think it would be good to post that publically on this thread, but I will tell you everything in a private message or e-mail.
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Posted: Mon Jun 22nd, 2009 11:39 pm |
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| Thanks Mechelle, I will start up a new email account so we can correspond and post it as soon as I have it. Don't want to post my regular email account on the public board so give me a day or so and I appreciate you taking the time to go over this with me privately. - Denise
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Posted: Tue Jun 23rd, 2009 11:55 am |
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Let me try to send you a private message through this site...
~Mechelle~
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Posted: Wed Jun 24th, 2009 04:24 pm |
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| I'm wondering if anyone knows what SOCKS 1080 is. I found this had been accessed on my computer after my husband was using it. I think it's a "proxy server" whatever that means. I looked around the internet and it looks like proxy servers are used to get around filters. Thing is, we don't have any filters on our computer so I can't figure out why this would be showing as accessed on our computer? Could a proxy server also be used to hide internet activity from your computer files? I can't get enough info on the internet about why our virus program would have picked up a hit for SOCKS 1080. Any ideas?
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Posted: Wed Jun 24th, 2009 04:27 pm |
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| Also the virus protector on my computer showed a hit for Google (Backdoor). What does that mean? I have started to leave my husband alone on the computer with no monitoring system set up and then I see these things like SOCKS 1080 and Google Backdoor and I've never seen them before so I'm starting to get suspicious.
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Posted: Thu Jun 25th, 2009 09:17 am |
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Hi Denise,
Near where it says that you are "logged in as Denise11," it should say "you have X new messages." That link takes you to your inbox, as well as a link to compose. You can also send a message by clicking on any other user's name, which will bring up a list of links such as "view profile" and "send a private message."
Hope this works out for you.
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Posted: Mon Mar 1st, 2010 08:49 pm |
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| Hi...with all the internet filters listed in this section, I'm wondering if anyone could tell me if they work with a corporate owned laptop. The person who has the laptop does not have adminstrator rights as the laptop is owned by a large financial institution. The laptop is suppose to be used for work purposes only, however, getting onto the internet is very easy, accessing YouTube and all the porn is easy as well as other porn sites. Spectorsoft will not download on the laptop because the person does not have adminstrator rights. Wondering if Webwatcherkids would work.....thanks........Laura
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