| Author | Post |
|---|
mo4wo1
Member
| Joined: | Thu Aug 9th, 2007 |
| Location: | |
| Posts: | 2 |
| Status: |
Offline
|
| Mana: |  |
|
Posted: Fri Oct 19th, 2007 07:33 pm |
|
Apparently I joined here at some point & had forgotten.
I am a female SA who is married to a SA. I struggled with my behaviors for years until I met my husband. We have been together for just over 13 years. throughout our relationship & marriage, we have struggled with his P use & MB. Last July, I was directed to a internet workshop & there, he came to recognize his behavior as that of an addict. He is now in therapy for that & other things.
While researching, reading & learning all I could about my H I began to suspect I may be one as well. I am fairly certain of it, now. I am struggling with this immensely right now. It scares the *bleep* out of me because I am struggling more today than I have in a very long time. I haven't a/o with others since I met my H except for binges in MB. I am afraid I am about to step over an edge & lose either footing or my grip on reality at this point. If we could afford it, I'd be in the "nut hatch" right now using up that break-down I earned decades ago. I am no longer in therapy (bad therapist) but I am reading, still, and trying to find a supportive support group or forum.
I am in desperate need of a support group that concerns itself with female SA's as there literally are no support groups here where I live. I do think a support group would likely do me best but I will do what I can with what I got, right now. Plus, I am not religious. But I need to bend at the least to fix this. What I've been doing isn't working.
|
TimM
Member
| Joined: | Thu Jul 5th, 2007 |
| Location: | Rural Midwest, USA |
| Posts: | 180 |
| Status: |
Offline
|
| Mana: |   |
|
Posted: Fri Oct 19th, 2007 10:16 pm |
|
Welcome! I'm not a woman, so I'll slip out; but I left a reply on your thread on the Introductions board listing a couple of possible resources for female addicts.
Tim M.
|
Diane
Member
| Joined: | Tue Feb 20th, 2007 |
| Location: | Maine USA |
| Posts: | 41 |
| Status: |
Offline
|
| Mana: | |
|
Posted: Sat Oct 20th, 2007 05:19 am |
|
Hello mo4wo1... Nice to see you here... I'm hearing your struggle... I'm feeling your struggle... You reminded me of when I first went online one year ago and I took one of those tests for sexual addiction and I was shocked... but in facing reality... staying in counseling a little longer... to make myself accountable... to openly communicate with my husband... (I'm married 23 years) all these factors have helped me on this road to freedom from addiction... My addiction was rooted in child sexual abuse... I used it for many, many reasons from relief of pain to revenge, comfort, lonliness, overwhelmed, stress etc...
I want to encourage you tonight that you can overcome this... I believe this/these forum (s) will be a blessing to you... there are many good, sincere hearts on this sight... wisdom and compassion... truth in love... I respect the folks here...
What's happening in your life today? You said this...
"I am afraid I am about to step over an edge & lose either footing or my grip on reality at this point."
by stepping over the edge are you meaning acting out with someone else? or are you speaking of binging.
Are you communicating with your husband about your struggles? How is he doing?
The therapy you speak of... was that for this issue of SA?...
You said you are not religious... I tell you I'm not crazy about man's idea of religion... but I do love Jesus... He is EVERYTHING to me... and I'm connected with a wonderful church family... I have friends there that hold me accountable regularly... and I'm grateful...
I remember also one year ago when I started seriously looking at this issue of SA it was difficult to find information pertaining to women & SA... so I understand...
Tell me a little more about yourself? what was life like for you growing up? did you struggle with sexual issues back there?
I'll stop with those questions for now... again it's nice to see you here... God Bless, Diane
|
Current time is 06:06 am | |
|
|
|
RSS