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crucified123
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Posted: Mon May 7th, 2007 08:00 pm |
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That's what addiction does to a relationship. In may ways, I thing the non-addict spouse works harder than the addict does in seeking a healing in the marriage. I thin that when an addict realizes this by going into recovery, he or she gradually comes to the realization how very fortunate that are to have a partner that loved them enough to draw the line and to help effect a change in their lives.
I think God would want us to go the distance before calling it a day on the marriage. For each of us, this distance is different. But make no mistake about it - we do what we do because of the love that we do hold in our hearts towards the addict. Yes, it is very lonely and very devastating not to have our needs met. That's where God sustains us in the provision that are give to us day by day, moment by moment at times.
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Posted: Mon May 7th, 2007 09:53 pm |
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Hi C123,
Now that you mention it, I do remember you saying that your presence in no way served as a limiting influence on his conscience, which is sad. It must have been heart-wrenching to tear away from a body your heart had joined with, because of his sin. I trust that should you ever get back together that you would again seek spiritual fellowship together. I asked because I believe strongly in the importance of union in worship, nearly as much as in being equally yolked.
:-) I can enlighten you as to why women accompany one another to the restroom. They want to be sure there is someone to help in case the facility has those anoying sinks where you have to hold the handle constantly in order to get water. We want to be able to both soap up and rinse our hands. :-)
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Posted: Tue May 8th, 2007 12:56 am |
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Dear Truthseeker:
Well, I never even thought of that. What do you know. Hmmm. That's why women do this-really?
Yeah, I hope that one day we would be go to church together where he is able to keep his focus upon only one woman - that would be me, of course. Inside of me, I don't think this will ever, ever happen. But if I don't wait for a season and give this therapy an opportunity, then I may one day be looking back wishing that I did.
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Posted: Tue May 8th, 2007 01:31 am |
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Truthseeker and C123,
AHHH! See? I thought we went in pairs so our friend could hold the door closed for us in case the lock didn't work right! 
Suzi
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Psa 107:20 He sent his word, and healed them, and delivered them from their destructions.
Luke 6:46 And why call ye me, Lord, Lord, and do not the things which I say?
Psa 119:37 Turn away mine eyes from beholding vanity; and quicken thou me in thy way.
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Posted: Tue May 8th, 2007 01:54 am |
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Dear Suzi and Truthseeker:
Honest to goodness ladies, I really don't have a clue, so which is it the water faucet or the malfunctioning door, or both? It does make me chuckle though to know how much I missed the boat on these things.
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