Dang Boys I forgot I ever posted that question. Spoke with co-worker today. Who is having marriage problems He confirms all that you say.Hey men I'm listening and learning.Ok I gotta work on the inner heart. I grew up in the Church. Any one here know what ADD/ADHD is? Some people with this condition have difficulties in people relationships plus were easily misunderstood. Well guess what? I have that dreaded condition.I have tons of painful memories from the past. I believe I have forgiven. But I still relive those pain full episodes of rejection.When I see these people I don't remind them of stuff.But I don't run up to them and say "So good to see you" If I did that would be a lie. Some times when I see these other Christians I avoid them. Any how its been said " We Christin's Shoot our Wounded" Well I've been shot many times over all at Gods allowance. So how the heck do I stop reliving the pain full stuff from distant past. God I've prayed to you 10,000 time's over these things you feel so far away? But we walk by faith not by sight or our feelings. Hey! Forgiveness is an act of the will not a feeling. Now you boys want to know what the kicker is. This past week was an awesome week of work,I feel strong,best physical shape of my life.I witness to a few of the boys at work and they listened. But what victories of my besetting sins can I share? I've know 10,000 Christians over my life time all have multiple area of sin. Who really has victory? I'm saved I clearly know right from wrong. I'm to Love e the Lord God almighty and then my Neighbor. Represent him in our relationships. The Christian life is tough I tell you. Thanks men