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Posted: Tue Dec 12th, 2006 03:47 pm |
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| My husband and I were recently discussing different aspects of "worldly views" and he posed the question to me if there are "restrictions" in the marriage bed. Not to be too graphic in detail but I am referring to different "types" of sex. From what I have been taught, the marriage bed has no restrictions as long as both partners are in agreement and that whatever "it" may be is not acted out of perversion. I would be interested in others opinions/views and any scriptures that would be of help with this question.
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Billyeah
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Posted: Tue Dec 12th, 2006 06:01 pm |
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I know people who believe in restrictions and I agree on some points because the marraige bed and sex is supposed to be pure and in a sense Godly. S&M and violent sex isn't godly, and I don't think it is appropriate in a marraige relationship. Pain should never be involved in a married sexual relationship.
Unfortunately I have no scripture and this is based on personal preference so I you can take it or leave it.
God Bless
Bill
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Posted: Wed Dec 13th, 2006 04:00 am |
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I'm with Billy. And, sodomy is spoken against in scripture. I think the "Every Man's Battle" book does a good job -- if one partner (usually the wife) feels it's sinful, then the husband shouldn't push it on her. She can work to expand her view, but he shouldn't be forceful with her about it, or intimidate or otherwise insist in any way. This honors her soul...
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Joel2:25
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Posted: Wed Dec 13th, 2006 02:04 pm |
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Upfront: I'm paraphrasing this from a book, but I agree with it 100%.
Hebrews 13:4 says the marriage bed is to be kept pure. Ungodly desires have no place in marital intimacy.
Sex is designed for enjoyment, building up the relationship, and creating emotional intimacy. Anything that is degrading, demeaning, or physically harmful (sodomy can be) should not be taking place.
Sexual addictions can lead to desires of such acts in the marital bed. Degradation of the character can make this seem something to be desired, as opposed to being something that isn't holy.
On the other hand, some spouses can just be overly sensitive due to their own issues. If someone is having strong disagreements over the marital bed, a therapist can help sort through the issues .... pointing out what is good and what isn't.
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wretch_like_me
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Posted: Fri Dec 15th, 2006 05:02 am |
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I read a book a couple of years ago called "Sheet Music" by Dr. Kevin Leman that I think had some useful information on this subject. I would recommend this book.
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