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Posted: Thu Nov 23rd, 2006 09:34 am |
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im 17 and i struggle with an addiction to porn and most of my friends look at porn. i know that there are alot of older (no offense) married men on here who deal with the same thing. but at 17 and not married sex is a sin and thats a big part of this addiction. in my opinion when a male in his teens looks at porn its usally not to releave pain (at least thats true for me) but for curiousity i know this is wrong but when all ur friends do it it ALMOST seems normal. at my age u dont have many friends that u want to tell this to because 1 they do it and see nothing wrong and 2 its simply embarrassing. so instead we hide it and pretty much fight it on our own which has been clearly stated as nearly impossible. so i guess what im trying to say is to remeber back to your teens im sure most of you seen porn (maybe not as much thanks to the internet) and think what you would do? they say hind site is 20/20 so maybe you guys can help us out.
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gaylon
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Posted: Wed Nov 29th, 2006 12:13 am |
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Preston, you notice not many replies. It's because most of us started with sexual addictions in our early teen years, and we don't really know what else to tell you than what has been said. You say it's only curiosity, but, if you can't quit, it's an addiction / compulsion / whatever. Same for most of your friends, and they will carry the addiction into their marriages, where all hell will break loose. 100% sure, no doubt, count on it. Best to stop making excuses, and start taking some action. Maybe you're not feeling pain now, but it will come, 100% guaranteed. And, by then, it will be *really* hard to leave it behind. You might have a wife and a couple of kids by then, and the hurt that your addiction will cause will be the wrath of hell itself. I know, I've experienced it... Read Mike Genung's steps on this site, and do your best to follow them (like we're all trying to do). Especially the part about developing true trust in Jesus (like I'm trying to do). Also a good thing would be to buy and read Mike's new book, (see http://www.roadtograce.com ) and study and implement it (which is also something I'm working on). Now's the time, my young bro... The longer the delay, the harder it gets...
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Posted: Wed Nov 29th, 2006 01:08 am |
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preston wrote: im 17 and i struggle with an addiction to porn remeber back to your teens im sure most of you seen porn (maybe not as much thanks to the internet) and think what you would do?
Preston, Just for the record, they had porn before the internet. Do they still publish Playboy?
I'm just going to go off of what you wrote. "I struggle with an addiction to porn" What makes you call it an addiction? Why are you concerned about it in your own life to visit and post on this site? Do you think you do it worse than everyone else? Or is it because you think it's wrong and want to stop?
If you've determined its a problem in your life, it doesn't matter what anyone one else does or thinks. It doesn't matter if it is normal or commonplace, once you recognize its something you don't want for yourself.
So a couple things to help. Find some friends that might understand. They are probably at church but might be outside of your social circle. Start slow. Say you struggle with lust. You'll watch them all nod their heads and in understanding. Keep it at that level until you feel safer to share with a few and then you can bring up porn and masturbation. Also find someone older who you respect, maybe your dad, maybe your youth pastor, or another man at church. Older men have lived life much more than you and have a lot of wisdom to impart.
Keep this in mind. The reason you are pursuing purity is not for purity's sake. The reason is in response and out of gratitude for the grace and love shown to you when Christ died for you. You were made pure on that day. Don't try to make yourself pure so that you will be acceptable in God's eyes. You are already acceptable because of His sacrifice. Love Him, because He first loved you - bask in His love and purity will come as a result. God's Love results in purity. Purity doesn't earn God's Love.
Last edited on Wed Nov 29th, 2006 01:11 am by alpha
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Posted: Wed Nov 29th, 2006 01:42 am |
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Alpha - thanks - this is a lot better response than mine... Great suggestions for Preston... and me...
Last edited on Wed Nov 29th, 2006 01:44 am by gaylon
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Neversaydieagain
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Posted: Wed Jan 31st, 2007 03:32 am |
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hey preston i'm 19 so i don't have to look too far back to see when i was 17. that about the same time i started to feel bad and look for a way out. i didn't find anything like this till now and well nobody wants to talk about it in real life. honestly man unless you really want to quit there's no way. you can't care what other people think or say. i know that's hard in high school but you gotta try. you can't keep living like this if you're already feeling bad about it. if nothing else i'm here for you man. it may be a little easier to have an accountability partner that's a little closer to your age.
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Posted: Fri Feb 9th, 2007 03:27 am |
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I'm not an addict but married one, I remember my husband said (much later in our marriage) that he struggled in his youth and thought that when he got married it would all be better but as you may be aware that is not the case and it doesn't just go away and doesn't get better if you have a wife. Over 20 years later he is bound by this sin and we are separated with scars and hurts allround...your not just hurting others but yourself. I think it gets worse especially the longer it goes on, praying that while your young and you have some conviction that you can turn and repent and surround yourself with people and things that will help and assist you in your struggles. There is help out there when you start to look for it, you've already found this site where you can get Godly counsel from other men with this struggle most of which started in their youth. Use their wisdom and experience and turn to the scriptures for Gods guidance. It is vital not only for your life but your soul. Hope as a woman you do not mind me posting something that may help or give you some different light
Blessings
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