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Posted: Wed Jan 24th, 2007 10:30 pm |
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I have had lots of life experiences and have struggled with SSA ever since I can remember. I would love to share with you how the Lord has sustained me and used me in mighty ways, despite my weakness. I do not act on my desires and have found strength in other ways. If you want advice and encouragement please contact me with a private message and I will dialogue with you.
His Grace is Enough,
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alpha
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Posted: Thu Jan 25th, 2007 03:08 pm |
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Servant,
I would certainly be interested in your perspective and experience on this issue. However, given the anonymity you already have here, why do you feel it necessary to solicit private messages? I am member of another site dealing with same-sex attraction and private exclusive dialogues are strictly forbidden. The reason to prevent inappropriate and dependent relationships that could eventually lead to sexual relationships.
I'm not suggesting that your motives are unpure but there is a victory and strength found in light and openness that cannot be found in shadow and secrecy. Frankly, I have never heard of a person who was deeply involved in homosexual activity (sex, porn or otherwise) finding victory on their own. At it's core, same-sex attraction is a relationship disorder and healthy relationships are needed to overcome it. Outside of marriage, healthy relationships aren't exclusive and private.
So really I'd like to here your testimony and advice. I'll share mine. But I don't want to do so privately. Let's keep it in the open.
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Posted: Thu Jan 25th, 2007 11:28 pm |
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Servant,
I agree with alpha entirely and find your suggestion that someone contact you privately highly innappropriate. Please consult with Mike, the administrator of this forum.
I don't mean to offend, but it seems more like you are trolling than trying to help.
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Posted: Sat Jan 27th, 2007 04:35 pm |
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Hi,
When I suggested that people write me a private message, I did not have anything perverted in mind. I just thought that the person would feel more apt to share their concerns and struggles. Some do not want their personal story published, at least perhaps at the beginning. I would not share my personal details on a forum other than to help others. I am a man of God. I have had Christian counseling, been married for many years, and have helped many who struggle with SSA. I am not perfect and without the Lord and a couple of trusted friends I could have never made it to this point. God is good! (Now, if you don't want to speak to me that is your decision.)
His grace is enough,
Servant
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Posted: Fri Apr 6th, 2007 06:33 am |
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I agree with keeping it in the open, but let's not jump to conclusions.
Henny, a suggestion: sometimes we should be careful with our choice of words.
*edit* what a hypocrite i am  sorry.
henny, no offense, but sometimes we should be careful with our choice of words, i know you didnt mean to think of him as trolling. 
sorry!
God is with us, let us LISTEN to Him and OBEY Him!
I will continue praying for you guys!
Keep clean! (including your minds
Last edited on Fri Apr 6th, 2007 06:38 am by geeky_student
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Posted: Sun Apr 8th, 2007 02:02 am |
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I have been on discussion boards for over two years and though I find the PM to be a useful tool, I also find the discussion board the best way to "bring things into the light".
I have a boundary not to PM with any women since that was my weakness before recovey. I think it wise to consider the potential dangers in sending PMs with men who are vulnerable with SSA. I am certainly in favor of asking a specific question and sharing an 'off the board concern'. But having an ongoing private dialogue with anyone in this board is counterproductive to the advantage of this forum and bit too much on the edge of breaking a boundary.
Thank you for allowing me to share my .02. 
God bless,
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