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Posted: Mon Feb 25th, 2008 08:34 pm |
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I have been helping someone online who was or is struggling with SSA. I am afraid that this person might be getting too dependent on me. What do I do? I do not just want to leave this person out in the cold. I know it was fine in my spirit for a long time and I have grown in this experience I know that It was of God that I should have this mentoring position, but I recently got a warning feeling in my spirit about this thing. This person has been saying, "when are you going to come up to Canada?" I have been open with this person and have helped him but I wonder if God has let me know that I may not be a help any more but a hindrance. I feel like I may have trapped myself in trying to help. What do I do? Should I tell this person that he does not need me anymore? I have told him everything that he needs to know to be totally set free. I will never know if he is being honest but if he is honest he is doing very well. But it was just a little bit ago that Satan attacked with a word said and I felt the warning in my spirit about this.
I do not want the worlds wisdom I want God's so please do not post response unless you have prayed.
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Posted: Mon Feb 25th, 2008 10:20 pm |
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Hi refiningfire,
What more could any of us say than the Holy Spirit has already clearly imparted?
Even if his motives are pure, he needs to develop real, local friendships and accountability, and not depend on virtual support. I think that I would be kind, but straight forward, and tell him that I have no plans to visit Canada.
Praying for God's ongoing wisdom for this situation...
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refiningfire
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Posted: Mon Feb 25th, 2008 11:24 pm |
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Pray for me that it works out.
I am going tell him that I will certainly not be coming to see him. and other things.....
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Posted: Tue Feb 26th, 2008 04:11 pm |
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Refiningfire,
A homosexual man may only find healing through an emotionally warm and satisfying, but firmly non-sexualized, friendship with at least one other man from whom he can count on steady caring as well as esteem. I agree with Truthseeker that an online relationship alone cannot supply for him what he needs. By all means let him know you have no plans to visit (that may motivate him to cultivate face-to-face friends), but you need not feel trapped, and it would probably not be helpful to him to withdraw your support suddenly, unless of course you have reasons of your own (such as time constraints) that require you to scale back. Or you may not have been bargaining for a long-term online friendship. If so he should know that.
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Posted: Tue Feb 26th, 2008 06:35 pm |
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I have not had a problem with it until recently and that is because I have come under spiritual attack. I think he has found healing but I fear that he may have become dependant on me. It has nearly been a year from the time I started helping him. I do not know what to do but I am going to get counseling about this and other things. I am not afraid and I trust God will work this out.
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Posted: Tue May 13th, 2008 10:15 pm |
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Refiningfire,
I agree that your friend needs a mentor/accountability partner that can accept him and is he himself not interested him in a sexual way. But the bootom line is that he needs Christ to set him free form this habitual sin.
I am a mentor for Setting Captives Free. it is a free onlin biblical course. I myself have been set free with homosexuality, porn and self-gratification for over 3 years. The course does not set you up with a face to face accountability partner but it does set you up with an online mentor.
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Posted: Thu May 15th, 2008 04:53 pm |
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Setting Captives Free online course is excellent. I would recommend it to anyone. I myself have been set free some time ago but I am still debating doing that course myself to learn some of the things they teach so that I can be equipped to help others.
I feel good about how it is going. My brother in the Lord seems to have found God for himself in a special way. I have not been chatting with him as often due to time restraints but it is always positive when we chat. I think he will come out of this thing and maybe he will be ready to be of help to others. I have told him of Door of Hope at Setting Captives Free but he is really busy and I can't make him do it. I do think that he is no longer struggling with this thing but for random temptation.
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