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caringwife
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Mana: 
  Posted: Wed Sep 28th, 2005 03:55 pm
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My husband and I are seperated. I have been doing some searching as of why and how come. Well I got to thinking about the months before you see my husband had got into watching porn and viewing porn magazines. Well at first it didn't bother me cause you see I have to admit I viewed this stuff with him. But then he became to rely on it more and more. He wanted sex 24/7 and when we didn't he would watch this stuff. He would go in another room and watch shows that just had girls on it to get turned on and then pleasure himself. He'd get up in the middle of the night and do it and then before time to go to work he'd watch exercise shows to do it by. Even when we had sex the night before he still would do this in the morning. Then there were nights when I wanted to have sex and he wouldn't cause he had already pleasured himself. So I know that this wrong and I don't know how to deal with it though. So any advice is appreciated.

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Mana: 
  Posted: Thu Sep 29th, 2005 05:44 pm
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I am sorry you find yourself here on a board for wives of porn addicts.  This is a tough spot. It is painful, shameful and no one seems to understand how porn pics and mb can destroy relationships. 

You say that you are separated.  Did his problem with porn cause it or were there other things?

My husband woke up to the fact that his porn was a big problem in our marriage. He had to realize that it was a bigger problem than me just not liking him doing it.  We watched it together too.  My husband justified his actions because I tolerated some porn.  He told himself that it was ok and no big deal. He actually couldn't understand why I would be bothered by pictures that he didn't think threatened our marriage or were a betrayal. 

When I had finally had enough and decided that I could not longer share my husband with his hand or his fantasies,  he woke up.  To protect my own values and sanity, I had to say no more or go. 


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