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junkyardboy
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Posted: Wed Apr 25th, 2007 04:57 am |
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hello need to talk,
i wish i had some awesome wisdom to offer you.
have you considered contacting a lawyer? in many states the age when a child can decide whom to live with is 12 years old.
plus if you can demonstrate his conduct has caused them harm.....
i know all that may sound extreme but maybe something to prayerfully consider.
may God set your path straight,
peter
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Posted: Wed Apr 25th, 2007 05:30 am |
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junkyardboy
unsure if your note got posted to the note below the one you meant or not.
We actually have 2 girls 16 & 16. One my step daughter but he has joint custody and the other in the process of a long medically complicated adoption that began with him and the first wife 15 years ago (we have physical custody-she's 16 year old and lives with us) But my name was not on the original adoption papers-I only have power from the courts to see to her needs.
Leaving them would be like plucking out my heart! Litterally! I began with a 9 year old that wasn't even potty trained and now she still has huge gains. Sure she's still pretty physically and mentally limited-but she is pure joy! Never has a bad attitude, a bad day-you name it!!! Going to be hard to face - if I'm pushed to that point!
Please pray for me/us too!
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junkyardboy
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Posted: Wed Apr 25th, 2007 05:37 am |
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i can feel your pain as you write linda.
that is why i sugessted you see an attorney about possible custody during your possible seperation.
considering the time your husband invests in his sexual sin, he would be robbing those girls of the time for their needs.
peter
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Posted: Wed Apr 25th, 2007 06:17 am |
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junkyardboy
thanks for the advise. One is their natural child(15) - the other is an adoptive child (16)with a complicated medical history that still prevents adpotion being completed. The first wife would have to find out everything to change custody of their childs from joint and go to court to change the other ones placement. She is not a very naturally understanding person of the sweet ones special issues and needs and that wouldn't be a great situation either! She is a good woman, the little takes lots of patience, love and TLC...She needs lots of love, hugging, explaining, understanding, dressing, bathing, etc....... she is kinda the big reason they split up (she was 5). She is doing better with her but for more than the weekend togerther-neither can tolerate! Very scared about her future needs situation. I am only custodial in that I can see to her medical needs. They both actually have their names on the papers for her. I'm only an addendudm to be allowed to assist.
Please pray for me/us through this long time (or so it seems)>
Thanks again for all the support here - wekly counseling wounld not be nearly enough!!!
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Posted: Wed Apr 25th, 2007 09:37 pm |
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| You are in my prayers and I know that God will give you the strength to do what you need to do. I will also pray that God will show him that his actions are totally inappropriate. Not only does God condemn adultery in the strongest of terms, He also says to "abstain from all appearance of evil." In my book, what he has been doing certainly appears evil and he should have enough respect for you as his wife to stop simply because he knows it bothers you. Like the old saying goes "where there's smoke, there's fire." You are uplifted in my thoughts and prayers!!
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Posted: Fri Apr 27th, 2007 05:19 am |
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wounded wife
Thanks for your post. I just posted a huge mess from yesterday. I found it looking for music like our daughter would and all kinda green squirting women and 5-6 ways etc. really nasy & grapic video clips 100 in the upstair computer and 75 + on the lap top.
I copied them onto our photos(wallpapers) our hearts, heads, bodies and gave them titles like mom meet my new mom, dad, I wanta be just like her, (?maybe 14 or so on each computer).
He came to me furious/yelling/throwing everything! I again explained that the girls could have tapped on them - they were in his CD's catelog for his ipod. A single tap open the nasty viedo clips.
I put 2 work and 2 home outfits with HBA products in the car and told him to clean anything else out of the car, computers, house before I came home. The next anything I fond anywhere - I was gone no comments, questions - anything!
PLEASE CONTINUE TO PRAY FOR ME/US AND MY STRENGTH TO FOLLOW THRU IF I NEED TO!
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Posted: Fri Apr 27th, 2007 05:47 am |
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Hi Linda,
I do so pray.
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Posted: Fri Apr 27th, 2007 06:06 am |
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I've been through abuse in my previous marriage and it didn't hurt inside like this does. I'm having panic attacks and can't sleep without med's-then I can't get going in the morning!
My heart breaks all over every day just at the though he could be doing it again or right now. Or meeting, talking on the phoone or chatting with women who aren't mad and hurt at him. I know he may need some comfort or more than my good bye hug daily-but that is honestly all I have in me to give him. Please let that get better soon too!
Hugs & prayers,
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