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Posted: Wed Jan 31st, 2007 05:47 pm |
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I've read a bunch of ideas on how to cope. I feel trapped! I can't do anything for myself it seems. My husband seems genuinely sorry, and I hear the promises but I am not seeing anything being done. My three children are sick, and we have unhealthy air so I can't take them outside. There is no sunshine. I am cooped up inside taking care of them, and have been for over two months. I can't just go take a bath or something, because I have to tend them. I have always put my needs last because I have to. I also care for my husband's dying mom. When they go to bed, all I want to do is curl up in a ball and cry myself to sleep. We have no money for counciling or anything. Plus, I am dreading valentine's day. I don't even have time to read, right now I have to go break up a fight between my boys! What can I do?
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Posted: Wed Jan 31st, 2007 11:19 pm |
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Oh my goodness! You have WAY too much on your shoulders right now. Is there ANYBODY? Another mother? A neighbor? A friend? Is there anybody you could call and have some support from? Somewho who could give you some alone time?
If you've ever been in an airplane, the safety talk they usually give tells us to put our OWN oxygen mask on first, before helping anybody else. We can't help anyone if we don't have our own strength. So, please, try to get somebody to come in and help you out, even if it's a shared thing, where you take another mom's kids in exchange for her taking yours.
Is there any Hospice group available? They are usually quite helpful. Don't hesitate to ask for help of that sort. We couldn't have cared for my mother-in-law without their help.
I will pray for you, for strength, for rest, for someone to HELP you.
Suzi
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Luke 6:46 And why call ye me, Lord, Lord, and do not the things which I say?
Psa 119:37 Turn away mine eyes from beholding vanity; and quicken thou me in thy way.
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Posted: Thu Feb 1st, 2007 01:36 am |
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Thanks, I like the airplane safety thing. My Mother-in-law refuses hospice, and she could have another couple years. She is still working. My mother has dealt with mental issues all her life and I can't trust her. Funny you should mention neighbors - I watch the next door neighbor's boy as well, since his mom decided to run away from the entire family (the second time in this little boys life!). All the other neighbors belong to the same church, that I am not a part of, and they have a very strong holier-than-thou attitude. Most of the girlfriends I know, are really just wives of my husband's friends and they all don't see anything wrong with this sort of thing. My sisters all have had mental issues, or they are part of the above-mentioned church. It seems like I hit a brick wall everytime I turn around! And I just found some more evidence, even after he said he told me everything! I try to take pleasure in my kids' smiles every day - I guess that'll have to do. I'm praying, but I think I am expecting way too much comfort right now, and am a little disappointed in myself! And talking here, that helps. Thanks!
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