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Posted: Fri Jan 19th, 2007 05:38 pm |
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| My husband is a sex addict , he has been in a program for 6 months. What step should he be on? he is currently on step 4 .....Am I missing something?
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Posted: Sun Jan 21st, 2007 02:56 am |
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Again, sorry to reply as an addict. Different people and different meetings move through the steps at very different rates, ranging from doing them all in a weekend to taking a year per step. Faster is more like the earliest experience of AA, but really, people today are all over the map on this. I don't see anything out of the ordinary in where he is - he is moving faster than many people do. Good for him!
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Posted: Sun Jan 21st, 2007 04:27 am |
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Thank you! I know he is trying (so I hope) though lately , I do not feel it as he has grown very distant and angry with my questions. He hurls back..why do you care now? And..I am healed. It is of my understanding that you are only healed by the symptoms, not the addiction..and this is by God's grace that it is. When I asked him about accountability partners, he named them off...when I looked to see if he called these people..NOTHING...no calls. And what is worst..NO calls from them either, keep in mind this is the 12 step program not the SAA. I wrote the other post and attached a poll to it , in hopes of gaining insight on this...because in the 12 step (though a religeous walk of any sort) is helpful..the SAA program focus is more on the addiction at hand, it is more in touch with people that have the same addiction as you. It is truly there , that you can hear the many struggles of others and what it has done to them and their precious families. This addiction is crippling our family units and tearing away at those involved hearts. I am though..more concerned with his inability to discuss his progress or what he shares with his group and recovery. His inability to show me affection of any kind. The fact that he leaves so early to work and comes home late. Tonight..I actually found him in a strange position on the floor in the kitchen half asleep. He claimed because he had no where to lie down or sit. We do have furniture in the living room. Besides the fact that I am the wife of a SA , I am also a counselor to teens & women of broken homes. I do this in my "extra time" every night after I take care of my family. I just found this very strange and somewhat frightening. I have decided to go back to writing again, I put down my book when I learned of his addiction..But I know now that I have to continue to live and not let this destroy me...
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