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Posted: Mon Jan 8th, 2007 08:37 pm |
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Thank you for listening and Jah Bless everyone.
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Posted: Tue Jan 9th, 2007 09:12 am |
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Hi Jaxon,
Pornography is not about sex. I hope you have a chance to read the excellent articles and newsletters on this site. Porn addiction is about numbing pain/getting a high, just like any other drug. Many of us view it as adultery. It is not a healthy relationship if he has to look at someone else in order to interact with you. It is probably a terrifying idea to raise children alone, but, unless he is willing to seek help, he is not the example of what a man/father should be that you want your children to follow. If he will not break the cycle, they are likely to repeat it.
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Posted: Tue Jan 9th, 2007 03:19 pm |
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First congrats on your new baby. My new one is due in a couple of weeks. Nothing is better.
Do not make deals about porn. Any hint that it is ok, is a green light.
Next time he says that the devil trying to drive you apart, remind him that his porn activities are straight from the devil. There is nothing Godly about porn. It must go from your relationship.
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Posted: Wed Jan 10th, 2007 12:34 am |
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| You are so right and that is what really terrifies me - the possibility of my son witnessing what his father is doing and then thinking that it is okay and repeating the cycle. I don't want my son to be a slave to porn. And then I think about the girls - my 13 year old daughter and my 3 year old daughter that is his - are they going to grow up thinking that a real relationship between a man and a woman involves no kind of love and affection? He rarely if ever shows me affection in front of the children or in private. I don't want my girls to think that this is the normal way a man and woman in a relationship interact.
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Posted: Fri Jan 19th, 2007 10:59 pm |
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Greetings...Hinders them. It hinders them. It allows them time to go back to rejection and feelings that brought on the undesired addiction. When a man feels rejected, he goes back to his safe place of non rejecting, reliving his fantasies about women that will be anything or DO anything that he desires. Just my experience though painful..it would be wise to listen carefully to truthseeker....she is wise in this and very aware of the raw emotiions and certainly of mine as well. You see my husband is a sex addict as well, and this my friend has been a very painful rollercoaster ride. I am learning alot here and feel that you can too. As a wise pastor has told me...STAY CLOSE TO GOD...place yourself in his divine care. Pray for your husband. Listen to your husband. Meet his needs (WITHOUT) violating your morals. Wake up everyday and put on your ARMOR of Christ...pray out loud for his restoral and redemption, pray that his walk with Christ is a strong and good one. Most of all...YOU are not alone...we are here for you and I will pray for you. Be strong in the Lord....
Blessings and prayers God speed to you...
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Posted: Sat Jan 20th, 2007 12:44 am |
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Thank you! What you say makes a lot of sense and I hadn't thought about it in that context. I can see that this will be a battle for a long time and you are so right about keeping God close. I really think that this beast can only be beat with the Most High's blessing.
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