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Posted: Fri Jan 5th, 2007 10:19 am |
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Where do you draw the line when your protecting your own well being with a sex addict? Is it healthy to download spy software and Lojack the family car just so you know if he's out fooling around or not. In the day and age of AIDS a partner chasing out can be life threatening. I don't want any diseases! I sure the heck don't want to be living with someone who is still going out on me or who will come home out of the blue and leave me on the fly because I never seen it coming. I feel like a sitting duck if I'm not looking out for myself in this relationship. It's acceptable for families that live with drug addicts and alcoholics looks for signs of using why shouldn't we? Riddling him with questions all the time makes me feel like an idiot. I'd rather just look for the facts on my own. He lied so smoothly before how can I trust anything he says now? How do you do it?
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Posted: Fri Jan 5th, 2007 04:25 pm |
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Life,
I am a recovering sex addict. My heart goes out to you. And I know you cannot see how anything good can come of this, but it can. I may have made this recommendation to you previously, and if so, please accept my apology. But, if you haven't I urge you to do this immediately. Do not waste another day, another hour before seeking help for yourself. Life does not suck. Some situations do, but your health, peace, and joy in being alive are not dependent on someone else's behavior. There is help for you, but you must seek it. You cannot control this man's behavior, thinking, or feelings for you. You can only take care of yourself.
And you need to do that now!!!
Your postings took place from shortly after midnight until after 2 in the morning. This thing is affecting you deeply. Your pain is real. But there is help for you. You can enjoy life whether this man changes or not.
Please go to these websites and do something today!!!
http://www.sanon.org/MeetingsExp.htm#Q1
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html
Sanon deals with your specific situation, it is for those affected by someone else's sex addiction. Al-anon deals with those affected by someone else's drug or alcohol addiction. Either group, whichever is closest or most convenient will help you realize how to find peace, serenity and joy in life.
I will be praying for you,
Henny
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