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Posted: Fri Nov 16th, 2007 12:18 am |
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| I'm new to the group. I've known that my husband had issues with porn in the past. He has always lied to me about it. At one time I thought that he had kicked his habbit. For over two years I thought that he had kicked his habbit. He told me he had and I wasn't seeing anything that would lead me to believe otherwise. That is until Sunday. By Tuesday I had figured out as much of the truth as I think that I can handle at this point. For two years our lives have been a lie. He lied to me on a daily basis probably. I had two beautiful babies during this time. Before I got pregnant with our youngest daughter I thought our marraige had been restored. I would've never dreamed that this was still going on when I got pregnant with our son. Last night he told me he was willing to get help. I'm not sure that I believe him. Actions will speak louder than words. I'm just not sure how to get over the anger this time and how to pull myself out of this big black hole of depression. Any suggestions?
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Posted: Wed Nov 21st, 2007 12:08 pm |
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| I would love to know the answer to this question to. The anger and rage I feel is overwhelming. I love him but I hate him for what he has done. I am embarassed, humiliated and sometimes wish for him to just go away.
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Posted: Wed Nov 21st, 2007 03:11 pm |
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| the pain you feel is so strong. there is no easy way to get over it. you love your h and he hurt you deeply. if he is willing to get help, then maybe you could do couples counseling with your pastor or some christian counseling service. it will help him see that what he does really hurts you and it will help you to get your feelings out while getting solid christian advice on how to restore your marriage. another thing you can do is to pray for each other. to actually hold hands and go before the father together. there is something about hearing your partner pray for you that absolutely draws you closer together. it makes my heart swell with love to hear my h ask god to protect me and lift up the things that i am struggling with. it makes it harder for me to do things that i know would hurt or disappoint him.
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Posted: Wed Nov 21st, 2007 09:14 pm |
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I want to get marital counsling but my h doesn't want to. He says that he is going to get help but hasn't but it hasn't been that long since everything has come out into the open so maybe more time is needed. I am trying to see past the hurt and anger some days are good, some are bad, and some are okay. Thanks for the reply
God Bless,
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Posted: Wed Nov 21st, 2007 09:42 pm |
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| my instinct tells me that the more time passes, the less likely he will be willing to get the counseling he needs. maybe he will go ahead and take that first step. you will be in my prayers.
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Posted: Wed Nov 21st, 2007 10:02 pm |
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thank you all the prayers are welcome. I think that his biggest fear about getting help is being found out. we live in a small town and word spreads around fast. I am still praying and hoping with all hope that he just gets help. he has to want it more than anything though.
God Bless,
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Posted: Wed Nov 21st, 2007 10:13 pm |
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you are so correct in that he must want to get better. i know what you mean about living in a small town and the fear of being found out. if there is a larger town nearby, maybe he would be more comfortable in seeking help there. if nothing else, maybe you could do online counseling. may god bless you and i hope you have a nice thanksgiving. 
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