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Posted: Wed Feb 21st, 2007 12:18 am |
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Today, I failed and started looking at porn. I just could not stop. I go to a church of over 100 people and I know that the Lord is there. It is not a dead church. But, they is no one I can call and talk too. And get any one to pray with me.
So, I asks that you pray for me. I know god will forgive me for this, but I wish there was someone to talk to about this addiction. I want to confess my sin to someone and have them pray with me.
It is easier to make friends outside the church and play in this world. Then to find someone that will become a friend and prayer partner in the church.
So, please pray for me.
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rosiemj
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Posted: Wed Feb 21st, 2007 10:02 pm |
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Hi, I am sorry that you are struggling. I just broke up with a sex addict of almost 7 years who is in huge denial. It is hard for me to go through this so I am now reading on this forum for help.
I hear your pain and I pray you can find a way to deal with this addiction. I put up a new post about finding the source of your addiction. For instance were you molested, physically abused or loved withheld from you as a child or some older point that has affected you to make you feel less than?
Or what has happened in way of your belief system that needs acknowledging so you can find the source for yourself. I feel unless people with sex addiction go deeper to find answers that you will not be strong enough to find peace and freedom the way you need to in order to live life without all this struggle.
I feel knowledge is power and if you face the whats and whys you will have a better chance to deal with this.
If you need to talk to me or anyone email me rosiemj@adelphia.net I cannot help the man I love with all my heart but I would like to help anyone else I can. God bless you and all who are suffering from this addiction and those who are subjected to it. Rosie
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Posted: Wed Feb 21st, 2007 11:54 pm |
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Hi Rosie,
Support for those in recovery is always valued here, but one of the unwritten boundaries, not often crossed, is that support across genders is tkept to the public forums. Private communication is not likely to be a problem for you, but could be a temptation or stumbling block to someone newly in recovery.
You are quite right about the roots. If they are not located and dug up, prolonged recovery is much less likely.
TruthSeeker
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Posted: Thu Feb 22nd, 2007 12:19 am |
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Hi I am sorry about that. I correspond with male sex addicts but yes they are in recovery for years. I thought it would be a good thing to introduce these people. I left my email for all not just males.
No problem though. This is a great forum!!! Thank you so much. It means a lot to be able to share this with others. I have been on the wives forum and it is wonderful to finally find others in my shoes. Take care and God bless you, Rose
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Posted: Thu Feb 22nd, 2007 06:58 pm |
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sc,
If you read the statistics from the home page of this site you will find some startling information. You say you attend a church of about 100 people. Let's assume 40% are male, so you've got 40 men in the church.
20 of them are struggling with internet porn or some other form of sexual addiction or dysfunction.
There are 20 guys in your church suffering just like you. I haven't been going to our church for some time because of similar issues. My wife and I were having difficulties with our 27 year old daughter and didn't feel like there was anywhere to turn to in the chruch. We ended up going to a 12 step group (Al Anon).
Here is what I suggest: Talk to your pastor. Print out a copy of the statistics page on this site. Tell him you want to start a men's group as a bible study, prayer group whatever. Have him incorporate the statistics in his announcement, but make the group generic....not specifically for sexual addiction, but just a support group for men struggling with life issues; family, alcohol, drugs, work, sex, unemployment, etc.
Then, once you have things up and running, I think you will find a safe place to work on this issue.
God Bless,
Matt
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Posted: Thu Feb 22nd, 2007 11:25 pm |
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Thanks for all your input, to answer the first question about finding the source of the addition. I choose to look at porn starting at the age of twelve and I choose to sin. The truth is I take full blame for myself and what I do. I hurt the LORD and have asked for the Lords mercy and forgiveness. I will NOT blame my parents, the way I was raised or where I live to justify this sin.
I live a life of repentance everyday. My walk with Jesus is full of failures, But, I get on my knees and ask forgiveness. And try to keep my eyes on the Lord. We all fall, but knowing that Jesus is there to pull us out of the pig pin is awesome.
To answer the second one, I have talk with the Pastor, youth Pastor, Mens Ministry Leader about sexual sin. I did this a year ago, they felt it was not a big deal. I talked to them again, sometime ago (not going to say when). But, I was given the same answer, not in this church.
My reaction was wrong, I should of asked for prayer. Not to bad mouth the church. It does sadden me that more than half of the church is living with this pain.
Pray for me and pray that the Lord opens a door to be able to help the men in the church.
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Posted: Fri Feb 23rd, 2007 12:17 am |
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I should tail something about myself. I started when I was twelve and grew up in church. Now I am 40 years old, I asked the Lord into my life three years ago. The date was April 16, 2004 when me and my wife went and saw the Passion of the Christ. I bald like a baby, watch and knowing that my Lord died for me. From that day, I have lived a repentance life for the Lord.
When I fail, I do get onto myself hard. But, for three years the addiction has been broken. Someday I write a reply of how Gods grace has keep me clean for years.
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