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Posted: Fri Oct 20th, 2006 03:10 am |
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I've heard in recovery cultures that the definition of insanity is do the same thing over and over again, and to expect a different result.
Any thoughts, comments or experiences?
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Posted: Fri Oct 20th, 2006 09:50 am |
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If I remember correctly: In the film 'Groundhogs Day' didn't the reporter guy have to do make some very specific changes and vunerable moves before he got out of the repeated cycle.
I also remember he was getting sick and tired of waking up on the same day, over and over again. Although he was able to indulge in lots of things and get away with it, he wanted out. He had to take risks (he also got the girl he loved too because he took risks!!)
I suppose that doing the same addicitve things over and over and just expecting things to change without any kind of positive steps on our part made is kind of insane. It is exausting to be trapped and we are not in our right minds when we are. Insane , yes.
just my thoughts.
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Posted: Sun Oct 22nd, 2006 02:43 am |
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You know, I have never watched "Groundhog Day," but I have one good friend who often used that movie as an analogy of what things were like for him in recovery.
This is a good reminder to watch that movie! 
-Steve
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Posted: Tue Oct 24th, 2006 07:30 pm |
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It really is awful when you are caught in a cycle and there seems like no way out. Also in the film I think there were times when he thought he had made it out of the cycle but he hadn't, he was really frustrated and sick of it. I have just had another one of those days!.
Any sugestions of how someone might address and break the solid ties to certain lustful images (of women) that have formed in the depths of the mind. They can be so unbelievably powerful at times, even in dreams. I realise there is a link between chemicals in the brain and these images and also a spiritual bondage. If only God would just erase the images in one fair swoop.
probably start reading 'breaking free' cover to cover for the 3rd time.
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Posted: Tue Oct 24th, 2006 10:29 pm |
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Per your request for suggestions, my input is:
1) Find a counselor, mentor, spiritual leader who specializes in helping men get free and has been through it himself. Meet with this person on a regular basis and be totally honest.
2) Regularly attend a growth/accountability group consisting of other men who are working towards their own recovery.
In my experience, those are the two very important ingridients that usually help a person get and stay free, on top of receiving God's grace fully and overcoming whatever "healing issues" that need to be addressed.
Best Wishes, my friend!
Steve
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Posted: Wed Oct 25th, 2006 11:45 pm |
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Find a counselor, mentor, spiritual leader who specializes in helping men get free and has been through it himself. Meet with this person on a regular basis and be totally honest.
I am really praying that I may find contact with such a person. I am not at all strong at the moment to resist the tempt's and I know that I am very vunerable to falling down. Thought I was free.
Thankyou
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