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Posted: Fri May 19th, 2006 08:04 am |
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| I am going to try quiting porn again tomorrow and I thought I would use this site as a help in doing so.
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Posted: Sat May 20th, 2006 09:03 am |
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Me again,
I was not able to quit. It is very difficult. I am going to try again tomorrow.
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Billyeah
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Posted: Sat May 20th, 2006 07:37 pm |
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For me the real turning point was when I really began to look at porn for what it really is. An evil, misuse of God's gifts, resulting in the abuse, and shattered lives of millions. Adultery, fornication, uncleanliness...just awful. Satan has really blown this one up and church people are falling for it. Knowing that Satan is behind every camera, directing every shoot, and controlling the entire industry,really made it easier to say enough is enough. Couple that with the fact that you are looking at lost souls going to hell who need our help, not our encouragment. Once these things settle into your heart, saying no to porn will be easier.
Good luck, and God Bless
Bill
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Posted: Sun May 21st, 2006 12:47 am |
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| Thanks for the encouragement Bill. I am doing okay so far today. I think it will help to think of how much suffering it causes all of the people involved. Not just myself. It is easy to become selfish and only think of myself and how I am doing and how I am feeling. But, the reality is that porn hurts everyone involved with it and when I hurt myself it affects all of the people I come in contact with. So I am going to try really hard this time to stay strong.
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Posted: Sun May 21st, 2006 11:15 am |
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| I am going to sleep soon and I just wanted to check in and say that I have not acted out today with pornography. But, I am going to count my sobriety starting tomorrow.
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Posted: Sun May 21st, 2006 02:47 pm |
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Hey buddy do not keep putting off your venture till tomorrow. Start today. I am also struggling to stay away.
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Posted: Sun May 21st, 2006 08:15 pm |
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Stopping is the easy part. It's the "starting again" that usually gets us.
Welcome to the forum! May I ask: Do you have anyone in your real life supporting you in this? Have you told anyone? In my experience, I have found that is the first major step towards recovery is talking about it with people whom you trust who will accept you unconditionally.
Hang in there, bro! Keep us posted!
-Steve
Last edited on Sun May 21st, 2006 11:24 pm by Steve
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davidgoodman33
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Posted: Sun May 21st, 2006 11:15 pm |
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Hey again,
Thanks guys for your notes of encouragement! I put my sobriety date off to today because I decided that I needed to quit masturbation as well as porn. I did not use porn yesterday. But, I am going to count my sobriety from today because I want to stop masturbation too. I will keep you guys posted and it really helps to post things here.
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Posted: Tue May 23rd, 2006 06:00 pm |
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| I am doing good. It is day three for me and I feel much better already. I feel optimistic about this time around.
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Posted: Tue May 23rd, 2006 07:34 pm |
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A word of warning, not to be a kill-joy, because it is great to be confident, but be careful of becoming overconfident. Never for a moment take your eyes off Jesus, because the moment you think you can do it on your own, Satan is there to snap you back to reality. This I know from experiance.
My situation was where I had been clean for a few weeks already, but thought I could go online alone without a problem. Big mistake. So always be on guard.
God Bless
Bill
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Posted: Tue May 23rd, 2006 11:34 pm |
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Hey Bill,
Thanks for the warning! I have been trying to quit for years so I know how hard it is and how easy it is to become overconfident. I am trying to be less selfish in my motivation this time. I am not trying to do it for myself or so I can become more perfect. Rather, I am doing it for my wife and friends and those around me who I hurt by my selfish actions in the first place.
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Posted: Tue May 23rd, 2006 11:39 pm |
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Those motives will make a difference for sure. One thing that helped me was I turned the tables and imagined her looking at pictures and doing the things I did and I was enraged. So how hypocritical can a person get? That was a big step for me.
God Bless
Bill
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Posted: Tue May 23rd, 2006 11:54 pm |
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Hey Bill,
I had a dream of my wife using porno the other day. How funny is that? I heard on a show the other day something that really helped. The idea was that the girls invovled in porn could be your sisters or mothers and that they are someone's sisters and mothers. It is easy to think of them as objects. But, they are people with feelings of shave and disgust and hurt just like the rest of us. And, porn feeds on sexual harm done to the praticipants in movies. And, it grows to harm all those who see it and interact with it.
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Posted: Thu May 25th, 2006 05:48 pm |
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| Hello folks, I am on day five and doing pretty well. I hope everyone is strong today and reisists temptarion.
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Posted: Fri May 26th, 2006 12:59 am |
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| Hi Guys, hope everyone is doing well. I just wanted to check in and say I am doing fine.
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Posted: Sat May 27th, 2006 03:41 am |
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Hi everyone,
I just wanted to check in. I am on day 6 today and doing well. My wife leaves on her business trip tomorrow and I know that it is going to be a real challenge to stay strong while she is away for the house. It would be easy for me to just go off on a porn tangent. But, I am doing everything to stop that from happening.
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Posted: Sat May 27th, 2006 07:13 pm |
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| Hi everyone, just checking in. Today is day 7 for me. Feeling good. Wife is getting ready to leave for 5 days. This is where I really need to be strong.
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Posted: Sun May 28th, 2006 04:27 am |
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may God be with you
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Posted: Mon May 29th, 2006 07:59 pm |
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David how are you doing?
Let us know
we're here for you.
God Bless
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Posted: Tue Jun 13th, 2006 04:17 am |
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I am the partner of a sex addict ( who is sober now for 2 yrs ) and after my discovery of him I decided to check out some porn to see what he saw in it. I have to say what i saw made my skin crawl. I of course could see the arousal factor as men especialy are very visual, but because i am a woman I think I could see something else...a dead ness in the eyes of the women there, both in pictures and in clips of movies. I get that they are trying to look sexy sultry and all that ...but the next time you act out ( and I hope for all of you it's never but lets be realistic) you look past the lust and take a good look into some of those eyes.
I know it's possible this post will not be allowed and I understand that. I hope know one thinks I am judging them because am not, but I will not pretend to understand the obbsession or desire to view ppl in this manner. I have a partner in recovery but the truth is I feel like Chicken Little always wondering when the sky will fall again
Broken Diva
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