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Posted: Tue Jun 12th, 2007 06:22 am |
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| I've realized that I have been playing games. I still don't get better after all this trying. I am just simply playing games with God, my counselor and support group that I havent even been to and its like I dont even care. I never fight temptation and am successfull for any more than a few hours. I think I am going to cancel my accout here because I am just wasting my time. That whole "prepare myself for a Christian woman thing" is not working.
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Posted: Tue Jun 12th, 2007 06:35 am |
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Hi spe102580,
I wish I had some profound words of wisdom to share with you, but I do not. I am praying for you.
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Posted: Wed Jun 13th, 2007 02:19 am |
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I advise you to stay SPE because your freedom from "m" isn't going to happen over night. I think the key to your eventual success will be surrender. You must give up this struggle to God because you've proved the futility of trusting in your own strength. Please don't give up! Guitarist63
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Posted: Wed Jun 13th, 2007 03:23 am |
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spe102580
No cross no crown. You can not give up that easy. You may not see the benefits at this point in preparing yourself for a Christian woman, but trust me there is nothing more beautiful then a pure loving relationship covenant between a Christian man and women.
So what up until now you have been playing games! There is no time like the present to start changing that. Maybe you are doing what my husband did, he was trying to run before he learned to walk. Before we ever learn to walk we have to crawl then we have to make baby steps.
The learning process is so hard, we fall and stumble, we bump our heads and feel like we are never going to get it. We have days we want to give up, we even allow Satan to tell us that we are playing games, to give up because we can never do it. But all things are possible with Christ that strengthens you. Giving up is the easy thing to do. Christ never promised it would be easy, He only promised it would be worth it.
I have learned that anything in this life worth having required me to work hard to get. It cost me something. Playing games is easy, but the fact that you have been honest shows that you have a desire to overcome, maybe you just don't know how. You have to start with small steps. Please do not give up. Do it for you if you don't do it for any other reason. Do it so you can stand before God when that times comes and He can say "well done my good and faithful servant." God knows you heart and your desire.
If I am wrong and you just do not have the desire to stop, then ask God to give you that desire to stop. Gods mercy and grace is an awesome thing. His hand is not too short. Hang in there and know you are in my prayers......
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Posted: Wed Jun 13th, 2007 04:32 am |
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please dont give up, that is not what God wants but what satan wants...I know from watching my husband struggle that it is hard but I know God would want you to strive for these blessings because the opposite ruins you and hurts others around. Dont loose heart, no matter how you fail keep going - going to God in prayer and word, go to counselling, go to good support groups etc. Dont give up. Maybe you need to try other forms of help or counselling, Im not sure but I will pray that you dont give up and turn fully to God not just for 'preparing yourself for a christian woman' but for your souls sake.
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Posted: Wed Jun 13th, 2007 10:20 pm |
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SPE, St Paul once wrote to a church to say that they "were running well; who hindered you from obeying the truth? This persuasion did not come from Him who calls you." (Galatians Ch.5, verse 7-8). I'd like to remind you of your recent success of six days free of everything. The language you use in that report shows genuine determination and dedication to quit. Stick to your guns. Concentrating on failures rather than successes gets us all beaten up. God doesn't concentrate on your failures and He doesn't expect you to get beaten up every time you fail. If you give the struggle to Him, however many failures there might be, He will in due course enable you to achieve freedom from the problem. Be encouraged by your successes and build your confidence on them and if you fail, bring it again to the Lord and trust in His unfailing love. He is patient and faithful and will always love you. He wants the best for you. Please don't give up. Guitarist63
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Posted: Fri Jun 15th, 2007 01:32 am |
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I've found "giving up"was the first step towards meaningful recovery, at least in my personal experience.
"We admitted we were powerless over our addiction and our lives had become unmanageable." (Step One)
I am curious, how have you been playing games? What are the deeper issues that you are struggling with the most?
-Steve
Last edited on Fri Jun 15th, 2007 01:33 am by Steve
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Posted: Fri Jun 15th, 2007 06:09 am |
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| You have had a lot of people reach out to you in this thread man. I don't know you or how much you are hurting but trust me you are not alone in your struggles. I am not going to hijack your thread and pour out my pathetic story. All i can say is it is your duty to walk in the direction of your first love, which is God. I know when you are really lonely or lusting you want a girl and not God. The truth is if you can stay close to God you will still be somewhat lonely and may struggle with lust at times but these problems just seem so much smaller and less important. Then you can still take on life instead of being a slave to your emotions/lust.
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