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Posted: Wed Aug 13th, 2008 02:10 am |
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Wonder how to deal with when the body react on things, for example talking to somebody or seeing something..? Should I be happy because it reacts on women? Do I enjoy it? Love it?
What if it reacts "wrong"? On children, family members, same sex..?
I don't know if I should enjoy when it reacts right or if that is wrong/ sin? Wonder how to deal with this?
I might not be interested in explanations.., but something that might help me to see clear and find out what to do with it? What is right to do? and how is right to react
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Posted: Fri Aug 15th, 2008 02:49 pm |
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I fell this morning, some time after midnight. I made a lot of progress, 20 days of sobriety (7/25/08). I was angry about a few things going on in my life and I broke and instead of praying, I wanted to feel good for a split second, stupid. The upside is I am aware and in the past I would have brushed it off and likely to continue the selfish behavior. Hopefully I will make it 21 days next time or 101 Ok God Bless you all.
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Posted: Fri Aug 15th, 2008 06:10 pm |
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Hello all.
It's certainly been a while...about two weeks I think, since I last posted.
The rest of the week after I posted went along alright. Last week I had entertained the lustful thoughts in my mind a few times, but then I stayed clean up until today. This week I've been struggling with the desire.
Struggling as in, I haven't been feeding it (or at least I dont think so), but its been making its hunger known, and I've been having to combat it, successfully I think, in the morning and evening, when it tends to be strongest.
Today though the thoughts presented themselves, and I entertained them for a moment, and all of a sudden the fire of lust swelled up, and the desire became overwhelming. I fought hard, but I knew that I was going to give in sooner or later today. So I decided to MB and tried as hard as I could to keep out lustful images from my mind. I'm pretty sure I was successful.
After it was done, I felt relieved. But now, as expected, I can feel the old feeling returning, a bit stronger than usual since it had already been aroused today. For a moment, I knew that I could've denied MB'ing and still have the victory over the desire, but I chose the shortcut. The reasoning I gave behind that is cause I didn't want to battle with lust and possibly give in and entertain it for hours on end sin (even though I probably sinned anyway by simply MB'ing).
So, it's been two weeks. Keep praying for me, and I'll keep praying for you all.
Last edited on Fri Aug 15th, 2008 06:15 pm by Guitarist_John
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Posted: Fri Aug 15th, 2008 06:22 pm |
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Hello
My update: 3 days free then:
totally poured out my soul in prayer yesterday regarding this stuff after another fall. Today was completely overwelmed when facing a very difficult task that I could not seem to find a solution for. the usual feelings came back and then the temptations. i went out of my way to act on them rather than ride out the storm of emotions. I genuinly did not expect such a strong temptation after yesterdays and this mornings time with God, and it proved I still do not have the faith to trust him with all of who I am. i cannot do it and even when I ask for help.......I still cannot do it, maybe I still don't want to face freedom?. only I can ask myself that. Prayed for break of generational sin and for Jesus to cut the ties of this sin over my life.
Will continue this way till I know some freedom. Need more strength to resist the temptations than I have. Being single is also very difficult but no excuse and I must remember that it is not just lust that is the cause of this addiction.
I am wondering if God is running out of patience with me.
pity not better news from me.
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Posted: Sat Aug 16th, 2008 05:25 pm |
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Holdsworth:
Toward those who turn to God in their weakness, he is only too glad to show ever expanding patience; he becomes a stern judge only to those who turn away from him and cleave to their own devices. When we seek him for the wisdom we lack, he gives "without reproaching" (James 1:5). We too will get further if we avoid self-reproach. Having fallen, we say, "What I did was wrong," we receive his generous bestowal of forgiveness, and we resume the daily discipline in small things, firm and gentle, patient and persistent, that over time will clear our garden of weeds.
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Posted: Sun Aug 17th, 2008 10:40 pm |
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Thanks Paulos for the encouragement..I genuinly needed it.
been O.K since last and trying to bring each emotion, feeling, temptation to a God that I have developed certain Characteristics for., charactersitics which do not reflect what it says about Gods character in the Bible. My view has been of a God that is:
-always busy
-not concerned with the details of my life
-impatient
-not able to guide, encourage me in the things that I find a struggle and challenge
-gets angry when I find things difficult, or when I have become anxious
....just learning slowly.
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Posted: Mon Aug 18th, 2008 03:16 pm |
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Hi guitarist_63,
Here's how I fell. I met a Christian woman on a matrimonial website. We began to flirt over phone and online. The Lord did warn me through His Word before I fell. But I continued talking to her.
Keep praying for me...
I've been away from mb since Aug 10.
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Posted: Tue Aug 19th, 2008 12:32 am |
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Dfs: I didn't get your last post. Do you think it is wrong to flirt?
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Posted: Tue Aug 19th, 2008 08:20 am |
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There I go again.
I had done okay until today, when I got severely tempted by an image that I saw on the internet, and felt as though I was bout to give in, when some visitors came up to our house and all of a sudden the feeling vanishes as I'm interacting with them. They seemed like a Godsend to me at the time.
When I went to bed, though, I felt the desire, and I began to pray about it. Almost immediately the thoughts came, and I let them take over, and I indulged. Stupid, stupid, stupid.
I had done well up to that point. I was so happy that the severe urge I had early yesterday was gone, and I felt proud that I could keep on going.
And there I go, falling again.
I'll keep on keeping on.
There's something I don't quite get it though...we shouldn't be having a problem having the victory over the flesh...what are we doing wrong? This struggle isn't making me doubt the Lord, but its making me doubt the way I'm handling the problem. Victory is ours, the Lord conquered sin, we've received Jesus and received new natures, and yet we struggle. Well, of course we're humans, and when your human, sin is a given. But still, anyone else feel the same way?
Last edited on Tue Aug 19th, 2008 08:22 am by Guitarist_John
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Posted: Tue Aug 19th, 2008 12:37 pm |
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| Absolutely, I watched an image yesterday that I feel still is there
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Posted: Tue Aug 19th, 2008 04:08 pm |
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Just passed by a massage-thing and a girl smiled at me. I dropped in and asked for the price. It might be some quite descent thing and my body reacted sexually. I am not very much touched nowadays. I am single, and my body might react very fast on things.
I took a full-body-massage in the summer. I was only in underwear and while laying there my body reacted with wejacualtion. It was a man massaging me and I not sure if he noticed or not
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Posted: Tue Aug 19th, 2008 04:10 pm |
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| I don't know how to deal with all the sexual things in the body. It comes out with nocturnal emission..
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Posted: Tue Aug 19th, 2008 09:32 pm |
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Hi Dfs and thanks for your reply to my response on a previous page. I've been on holiday and no internet so haven't been able to post.
Am not any further forward or backward with my struggle.
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Posted: Wed Aug 20th, 2008 11:24 am |
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Hi, up most of the night and watched... Please help me
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Posted: Wed Aug 20th, 2008 07:25 pm |
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For example when dancing or going out on the street erections or semi-erections easily come.
This is new.
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Posted: Wed Aug 20th, 2008 07:44 pm |
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New things happen to me: Erections all the time: Donno why? Or what to do? Isn't it only physical reactions? Is it something wrong with it? If you tell it is wrong, then I will allways fail in your eyes. I don't know if there is something to do with it except maybe observing the reaction?
I am single and there might be a lot of longings sometimes..
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Posted: Wed Aug 20th, 2008 09:00 pm |
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It seems that erection and semierection comes nearly all the time now. I don't know how to deal with this..
It can be nearly everything. Just talking to a person can make it go nerly to orgasm or ejaculation, am I fearing...
I am very much or at least a bit. I am single. Maybe I don't have enough good friends who are willing to listen.
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Posted: Thu Aug 21st, 2008 01:14 am |
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Hi Man.
Sorry you're finding it a struggle at the moment.
The only thing I can suggest is that you need to focus your thoughts away from the sexual which you appear not enjoy and want to be free from.
My battle is mostly in the mind and not with the body.
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Posted: Thu Aug 21st, 2008 01:50 am |
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Just searched for something.
Donno how it can be a battle in the mind and not in the body? For me the body really seems to want to get release.
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Posted: Thu Aug 21st, 2008 02:00 am |
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Yesterday a release happened maybe because of watching
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