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Posted: Thu Jun 12th, 2008 10:31 pm |
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Hello Is268, I hope you find the accountability locally.
A very rough last couple of days and although I prayed last night to resist and got through the night and much of today, I found it too much for me today and so I've succumbed to the m again.
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Posted: Sat Jun 14th, 2008 03:43 pm |
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I signed up because I NEED daily accountability. I am way beyond struggling with porno and masturbation, I am pretty deep into it, I enjoy it andwhen I want it there is no longer much struggle. Of course later I ask the Lord for forgiveness and seometimes I really mean it. But I cannot get a greip on this, and I cannot seem to stay in the Lord's presence. I am a born again Christian and anyway I just need an accountability place, and someway to share what is happening in my heart.
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Posted: Sat Jun 14th, 2008 07:29 pm |
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Welcome J C teacher 52
In my experience, you have to hate what you have been looking at or you won't have the desire to stop it.
Today I have had no urges for the "m".
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Posted: Sun Jun 15th, 2008 02:18 am |
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Sitting here tempted
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Posted: Sun Jun 15th, 2008 03:21 pm |
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my question here is do we hold each other accountable or is this just a place to share our floundering? Because if it is just an easy place to share our sin, then maybe it is not what I need. Myself I need someone to hold me accountable, to kind of get in my face when I blow it. Like accountablility.
This is just an inquiry, since I do not know the ropes here.
David
PS I use my name also because I want to be accountable to someone
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Posted: Sun Jun 15th, 2008 08:42 pm |
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Hello jcteacher52 (David)
You won't find that this board is very effective for daily accountability because you cannot be accountable to people you've never met. I have a face to face accountability partner in my church. Otherwise, I have this forum.
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Posted: Mon Jun 16th, 2008 04:29 am |
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Hello to everyone. After getting dumped two months ago, I find myself very lonely and tempted by urges that I was once able to overcome. My girlfriend and I wern't even sexually active, but still porn seems to fill a void. Thankfully, with the Lord's help, I am able to resist urges most of the time, but "most of the time" is not good enough: I want to be completely porn free. So I though that this forum would be a nice tool.
I am praying for everyone here and look forward to getting to where I need to be with the Lord.
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Posted: Tue Jun 17th, 2008 02:12 am |
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I had a strong weekend, but I gave in to porn right after I got off of work today. Now the guilt sets in...
Guitarist63, to paraphrase you, "you have to have what you are looking at or else you won't want to stop looking at it". That sounds like good advice, because even though I have porn for its separation from God, I have to admit that I like the escape from daily life and loneliness that it provides. Do you have any advice on how to turn myself to completely hate it?
I am praying for all of you.
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Posted: Tue Jun 17th, 2008 03:49 am |
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I am kink of struggling today, I still have some lust, but with God's grace and you all here I am clean today.
Pray for me
David
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Posted: Thu Jun 19th, 2008 12:32 am |
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jteacher52, it's good to hear of your progress and your prayers. I will pray for you.
Confessorj, thanks for your question and thanks for your prayers.
I've been away visiting relations. Sorry to miss a lot.
Regarding developing a hatred for the thing one loves, I think the only way is if God interposes Himself between you and the object of your lust. He did that with me. All I could see was His terrible wounds on my behalf and His words to me were to lay burdens down at the cross and name them and surrender.
If God does not come between you and the sin you do, I don't see how you will stop doing the thing you love.
It's God who caused the hatred for this in me. It was the only way I could be set free.
Yet I still struggle with the m. A week now since I last offended.
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Posted: Fri Jun 20th, 2008 01:15 am |
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Hi guys, it happens again and again that I meet people online, chatting, real life who I find extremely difficult to tackle. They have understood everything and they might come with big "smiles" and explain..
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Posted: Fri Jun 20th, 2008 09:25 pm |
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Hello JCTeacher52, ConfessorJ, Man and others here
I reached 7 days yesterday and found it difficult all the day because of the great amount of discomfort from not having given in to my body's urgent request to be relieved. I held it off all the day and succumbed in the evening. The cycle repeats itself with monotony. Like a broken record going round in the same groove.
I can't see any progress and doubt I will ever get free of this.
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Posted: Sat Jun 21st, 2008 12:22 am |
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Guitarist, it seems you are honest. I appreciate that..
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Posted: Sat Jun 21st, 2008 01:00 am |
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Thanks Man. I am strongly tempted to give up trying to stop.
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Posted: Mon Jun 23rd, 2008 02:06 am |
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Guitarist63, thanks for the response.
I asked the Lord to intervene in my life, to make me hate porn. And He did. He made me hate it for the way it separates me from Him, for the way it destroys families, for the way it turns normal men into creepy pervs, for the way it ruins relationships with women. I have prayed every morning to have self-control and to continue to hate porn and to see it for the evil that it is. And I have not given in since my last post. It is an amazing feeling, one that I am very thankful for.
Trust me, if this can work for me, it can work for anyone.
Talk you all later.
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Posted: Fri Jun 27th, 2008 05:18 am |
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guitarist63 and everyone else on here: Hang in there. Part of my motivation is knowing that others are fighting the same afflictions. I am reading that you guys are struggling, and I am praying for you.
With the Lord's help, I almost made it just about a week, but tonight I crashed and burned. I agree with some of you that it seems like I can never get out of this rut, but I know I can. I think if we can resist the big temptation that comes after several days of success, that will be a milestone and the rest will come easier.
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Posted: Fri Jun 27th, 2008 09:05 pm |
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I am not doing well with the struggle for sexual purity. Personal circumstances threaten trouble ahead and a huge upheaval and it has made me depressed. I went into the city to try and sort it out today and came away with something that might be of help. Further help came later today from a welfare officer so I am much better in my mind. It looks like my troubles may not be so serious as anticipated although what happens in three or four months will decide it.
I have not wanted to post here for a few days.
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Posted: Sat Jun 28th, 2008 08:45 pm |
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Hey guys.
I really liked your posting about praying to hate porn confessorj. I think you are dead on with your prayers here. We cannot pray for God to take this away but rather that we love Godly things and hate evil things. And if we pray that God will let us see the reality of porn as you have described it how can we love that?
guitarist i am sorry to hear you so dejected. You have fought a while now. You have already given up porn which is great news. Whenever you get depressed i think you should remind yourself of the progress you have already made. If i was able to quit porn and still masturbate i would have made alot of progress. Your head was alot more polluted than when you filled it with porn i am sure. Thank God for the victories you have had and all the other blessings you have, don't focus on your struggle with M.
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Posted: Sun Jun 29th, 2008 12:24 am |
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Thanks for your encouraging words. The depression has been so focused on another trouble than the sexual that it hasn't been what has made me depressed. It has, however, been triggered by the stress aspect of the depression so it is an effect rather than a cause.
As far as sexual purity is concerned, doing all right today. I am most tempted out and about, not to look at the ladies.
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